I have just started the stylelife challenge and today i am going to abolish my AA, I am going to the local mall to talk to 20 strangers about anything and everything. I figure if I keep it in my mind that every response I get from people is positive feedback it will give me more confidence. But I'm going in.

I will let everyone know how everything goes later.

goodluck dude

i dont strike as a shy type of person, and im not. but talking to 20 strangers in a mall was too much for me haha. tell me how it goes

so basically i was in the mall for 2 hours. I created this game to play to get me talking to lots of people. The basic idea of the game is before you can enter a shop in the mall you have to ask anyone where it is located.

I didn't actually end up speaking to 20 people, i spoke to around ten people.

It was so simple as well... Ive been reading material about getting into the game for 1 and a half years. But the thing that stopped me getting into it was AA!! I dont even know what scared me about it, people are generally nice and helpful.

I got so confident that I went into a candle shop where a cute girl was working. I said to her I was buying a present for my mum for her birthday. She showed me like 4 or 5 different ones and our interaction was awesome.

I spoke to a guy in game shop for about 15 minutes just on different cool games that were coming out. He was telling me about L.A Noir. That game sounds awesome.

I got to a point where my confidence was soo freaking high that i went into guess and asked a girl working there if she recommends any cool clothes for me... she was actually really awesome and helpful.

I didn't actually believe this until today but the best advice for AA is to just say fuck it and go out and talk. I used the NLP idea that there is only positive feedback nothing negative.

Hey congrats about this, well done.

sounds a great way to deal with AA fair play to ya

Hey @ascot, that's really awesome to hear...

I have really big problems with AA... I mean, when I set my mind to it, I don't walk

away. If I am already walking to a girl, I won't eject, I simply have never done that.

If I'm already going up to a girl, then screw it, crash and burn baby, I don't care...

But, It is really hard to set my mind to it, I am not afraid of rejection. I mean, I deal

with somekind of insults every day and I don't care. I really have no idea what my

problem is, what is causing my AA... It's mind-bugling...

I will try at least try keeping eye contact with people or just saying Hi! to them.


But, tell me, is it now easier to approach people or you feel the same anxiety that

just blocks you?

Way to go dude!

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Awesome man, congrats I'm happy for you.

That was a good first step, talking with people who work places. They're naturally nice since they're supposed to get your business, so it's a good confidence builder and a good way to get used to talking to people.

The next step is to start talking to people who don't work at the store, but a gradual next step would be talking to someone in the store. Casually walk up next to someone and ask them an opinion on a product in the store. Granted this has a higher chance of backfiring and you talking to someone whose a giant bitch, but that will also make you a better person. You need to be rejected and ignored, so you can learn to brush interactions like that aside. Not everyone will be nice to you, and always remember it's them not you. You're trying to be outgoing, nice, charismatic friendly flirty, the people who reject you are antisocial.

impetumus,

Throughout my teens I always felt inferior and I had all the same symptoms that AFC's have. In fact I was probably worse than the average AFC in terms of confidence and self-esteem. When I was about 16 I moved from the U.K to America. The I started to get attention from everyone over my accent. Im a fairly good looking guy but my inner self destroys me. But anyway all that attention I was getting made my confidence skyrocket. I could talk to girls without relying on the outcome, and i felt amazing. Over time i reverted back to my old ways. This was before I even discovered the PUA community.

I believe in this shit because it works. I think a lot of people reading this stuff somewhat don't have faith that it works because they have never felt success before. I am motivated because I know it does.

I think it is a case of forcing yourself through AA. I feel the same way about it as you do. Im not sure what causes my AA it's weird. Ive been approaching as much as possible recently my AA is still there. I try and treat it like a pebble in my shoe, I know it is there but i try and ignore it (i can thank mystery for that).