Approach anxiety, most people even those who have been in the game a long time still have it; I was in costa rica recently doing some sarging with my friend in San Jose and I saw this gorgeous girl, chased after her (Well ran until I got even with her then walked in front of her and did an over the shoulder opener) Talked to her ran some tight came and number closed.......I came back to my friend and these 5 guys that had saw the whole thing were looking at me like I was God or something....and the only difference between them and Me is they haven't overcame approach anxiety.

So if you want to get rid of it forever here is what you have to do.

Step 1. Go to the thrift store and look for the most ridiculous clothing Item you can find, A grammas purse, a pair of snorkling goggles, Extra Large rainboots and wear them with shorts on a sunny day etc.....find your bold ridiculous noticeable item and buy it.

Step 2. Take out 100 dollars from the bank in 20 dollar bills and meet up with a friend DURING THE DAY (Not at clubs or bars and no drinking ahead of time allowed)....Give your friend the 100 dollars.

Step 3. You have to approach 5 women....Each time you approach a woman he gives you a 20 dollar bill back but if you don't make all 5 approaches he gets to keep the money you didn't earn back...By putting a monetary value on the approaches you will not want to lose your money for biatching out.

Step 4. Repeat again on 3 more occasions this time doing 10 approaches and all of them being worth 10 dollars....Make sure to wear your socially awkward item on all of these approaches....and begin sticking to the 3 second rule...........

Step 5. On the Final 3 approaches in this program take the bold item off and do the apocolypse opener....Dont ask her what here name is or anything just say "Hey" like you know her, ask her how she is doing, and then say cool; then ask what is she doing later and finally just ask very confidently and sincerely Do you want to come home with me....Maintain eyecontact as she will be caught off guard and looking for discrepencies in your attitude....if she says no just say calmly okay and quickly change the topic to the weather or something act like it was a normal question. (I know this sounds intimidating now but trust me once you have all the approaches under your belt with your bold item it will be just a simple task) Once you have completed those 5 steps you will no longer feel any approach anxiety in every day normal approaches guaranteed.

Useful hint: In steps 1-4 use the 3 second rule to approach, if you can't think of an opinion opener ask excuse me are you from around here (Like your lost) she will say yes or no and then say do you know where......And then say the closest most obvious thing that you can see is. I have literally been walking around a lake and asked girls "Do you know where the ....pause....lake is" really seriously; they briefly look confused and then always laugh.....then you can say I just wanted to talk to you for a quick second or I saw you and decided I had to come over here and flirt for a little bit.

Remember this is all stuff that will make you nervous initially......It is designed to do just that to push you way past any normal limits and have you experience social and approach anxiety at an unrealistically high level and once you get desensitized to that doing normal approaches won't ever phase you.........I guarantee this is the best technique out there and it is a small 8 hour or less investment from which you will benefit for the rest of your life.

Try it out, Feel your A.A. vanish, and Reap the rewards.

Feel free to post any feedback or ask specific Question.

Remember what other people think doesn't matter it is only to the extent at which we allow ourselves to adopt their ideas as our reality which matters.

Regards,
-GuessAgain

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Oh I almost forgot, At no point are you allowed to tell them that your fashion item is a joke or it is for AA or anything like that and if they make a joke about it trying to see if you acknowledge that it is a joke or that you are doing it to be funny you have to just say something like WELL I LIKE IT in other words defend your item as if it is normal......NOW get out there and Permanently erase your A.A.. You will thank me later.

Regards,
GuessAgain

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I was wondering if anybody had tried this in real life? I am interested to hear results

I don't know but from experience, when I dramatically changed my appearance, starting to dress to stand out I was really self concious. I wasn't used to people looking at me. Now I'm used to it I'm way more confident because of it.

I like this idea. I am going to start daygaming a lot when I return to my home city at the end of semester. Whilst I'm really excited about it I can forsee that it might very quickly turn into me and my friend hanging at the mall and not approaching anyone.

One of the first things I read on this forum is that the longer you wait to approach the more likely you are to screw it up.

The concept of loss to people is twice as powerful as the concept of gain. By putting a monetary value on the approaches, especially a value that you could lose; the approach is all the more important.

Great idea.