I'm seeing some threads on here about porn and masturbation addictions. This shit for sure affecs your game. I'm no PUA but speaking from experience, if we seriously treat this, its so much easier to approach strangers. If you're like me, you feel burnt out, dirty, ashamed, basically anything that lowers your positive self image. I could masturbate in a dark room with 3 foot thick walls and headphones, and when I meet a stranger later, I just feel so awkward, like they know I've been mashing it.

Failed promises to stop after promise, I realized I needed help. I joined sex addicts anonymous ( SAA )

I've got 60 days sexually sober from my addictive behavior (porn and mastubehavior). I feel exponentially better, have more energy, and my now raging sex drive is even more motivation to speak to girls.

If you guys are struggling with the ability to stop, you don't leave your pad, or its affecting your self esteem, I'd recommended checking out SAA in your area. Its completely free, and is for sure helping dealing with my AA and me feeling better about myself.

Peace!

CxHops

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I don't suffer from any kind of porn/masturbation addiction but this is interesting. Could you elaborate a little more on how it helped your AA though?
Like where you were in regards to approaching before you joined and where you are right now. How many approaches more have you done since joining, and how has the interactions been different. What specific effect has it had on your "vibe"?

I realize that's a lot of questions but I've always been fascinated by some of the outrageous claims people have when stating you shouldn't masturbate (only slightly removed from what you're talking about).

The constant and heavy release of chemicals from the repetitive orgasms for sure put wear and tear on me physically. I felt drained, tired, etc. And like I said, I felt ashamed at my inability to control how much I did it. These conditions put me in a beat down mindset. I felt like a piece of shit, so id carry this kind of negative cloud with me in public. It made it hard to be upbeat and happy, and the shame made it tough to make and hold eye contact, even with people who weren't really approahes, like grocery baggers. It put me in a bad place where, in a nut shell, I wasn't happy with myself, and that projected itself through my interactions.

Constant negativity. No beuno.

Now, with this in check, I'm not dumping loads of dopamine into my system 3/4/5 times a day. Thay means more physical energy. And with the negative thoughts gone, plus the positives of knowing I can truly change my life with the right tools, I don't feel ashamed. That translates into me being happy when I speak to people, and with my sex drive running on high, staring a girl in the eyes feels totally natural.

The AA is still there. But my confidence and drive outweigh my fear, self doubt, and poor self image. That makes it a million times easier to man up and do it. Plus now that I'm happier, its more like I'm just playing around with lines than forcing myself to talk to strangers.

From my experience, too much pipe cleaning drains your energy and sex drive. And if you can't control it on your own, it eats away at your sanity and you feel like a piece of shit. If you can control it, have a wank once a week to your favorite MILF video. But the need and drive for real human interaction is like no other if you go cold turkey.

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Haha Cxhops this is possibly one of the best posts i've read on her, ever. I can see what you mean. Porn and cranking can be very destructive behaviors. Even though nowadays it's considered normal, back 30 or so years ago it was very taboo and left wing (though I'm sure it was still done it private).

If you really think about it you are staring at naked girls (and guys) on a computer screen maybe everyday. It's a fantasy land that can make you an unwholesome messed up person inside, directly effecting your game.

I too have noticed similar negative feelings associated with cranking and the general well being of my persona and mindset. This post has inspired me to try this 60 days thing starting today. I have been considering it for awhile but since your results seemed so positive you have inspired me to give it a try.

Peace
Skeezy

Well it doesnt have to be 60 days, thats just where I'm at. If youre an every day kinda guy, just go even one week and you'll notice the difference.

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