The stuff I'm being taught about getting with girls in what not is implying that I believe I am better than others and I don't need them...Do I really need that mindset toward others because I feel like that mindset can be destructive to you in the long run....what's the best mindset to have if that's the case?? any help will be much appreciated.

It's not a matter of believing you are better than anyone, picking up women is about communicating your confidence and strength.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

I understand this thought pattern, but it is not a good perspective in my opinion.

I got into a horrible self esteem trap. I was raised to be humble and to think arrogance was evil. I still don't like arrogance, but now I realize there is a different way to be I had not considered when i was younger.

The problem as I see it is that you are focusing on comparing yourself to others.

You have to get to the point that your value is not relative to other people.

Humility in ways is also to show your own true confidence.
Shyness in ways may seem humble, but it's really just another form of pride. Pride in which fear is manifested about thinking of what others are thinking of you. So it's really not about that you think that your better than others, it's more about believing and understanding yourself as a person, and if others don't accept you then they have issues with social conditioning and not you. Thats when you say "F**K'em".

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Survive and Replicate, we are WOLFs, but with good intent.

I'm not sure if you have heard of the term, "congruence." Basically, congruence involves having a style consistent with your beliefs so much so it comes across to other people naturally.

I think a major error in the PUA community is the, "one size fits all," approach.

Personally, I favor a congruent approach. What this entails is understanding what you value and why. Once doing so, then it requires understanding how you can use your particular values and beliefs to form a style that is uniquely you and at the same time attractive to women.

I think a major error in the PUA community is the, "one size fits all," approach.

I agree...

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

I am better than others - at some things. Any other conclusion is empirically false.

I'm not better than others at all things. I'm significantly worse than others at some things. That's to be expected. I'm not an omniscient God. I only have a human lifespan, I don't have time to be good at everything.

I am morally better than some other people. To reference current events, I am morally superior to Muammar Gaddafi. I hope a bomb gets dropped on his head. The world would be better off.

I don't need abusive people in my life. That's part of how I keep myself emotionally healthy.