Ok,I discovered pick-up a year or is it 2 something around that period of time.At first it was great i couldn't wait to get started but instead of doing so I started reading a lot of material and so on only to get ready to go out but it never happens.

Now I need some help,advice anything to get me motivated to go out.Also as the title states I'm going kinda insane,throught overanalyzing and stuff like that.Hope you guys have some ideeas.

I think we are on the same boat friend,i dont have the balls to go to night clubs,parties.
And the worst,I DONT BELIEVE i will be able to get girls there anyway,so thats one of the things that keep me dismotivated.

You are suffering from a condition known as "Analysis Paralysis". You are focusing on the material too much, and when you get all ready to go out you make up some excuse -- "My openers aren't right yet... I could read the PUA forum some more tonight and get that ONE opener that will work on EVERY set... I don't have the right peacock outfit, I can't do it tonight."

Firstly, thinking about A, C, S and all aspects of the game are too much to expect on day 1. Focus on ONE thing when you go out: opening. Get into a friendly conversation with someone. Make a commitment to open up 1 set every 15 minutes, which will lead you to roughly 12-16 sets during the course of a night.

Have three or four practiced openers and threads of conversations to talk about ("Oh god, I took the hardest test the other day, let me tell you about this horrible, horrible class.", "Have you guys seen Inception yet? GOD, that movie BLEW my mind. Leo was good in it, but I hated Titanic... here's why....", "I went to the grocery store yesterday and forgot my shopping list so I just bought 100 hot dogs. Don't hate. They're delicious. Let me tell you the awesome things you can do with 100 hot dogs... Edible Jenga? The game has never been better!" These are all just off the top of my head.) Get your Peacock outfit Ready the night before, so you have NO excuses. Lie it out on your bed, staring you in the face. These are important psychological motivators.

You can talk about LITERALLY anything so long as you are confident and composed while you talk: this is what takes practice. And THAT, precisely, is why you need to go out. You can read all the material in the world but you won't be any closer to picking up girls until you've tested it out -- this is a fact.

Make a public commitment. Tell your best friends, or hell, post on this message board that you will, come rain or come shine, go out on DATE X. This public declaration is important, because when we just "promise ourselves" its easy to fall back and take no action (as you know too well, having come up with excuses not going out.) -- so find some way of transmitting to the world that you WILL go out, so you will be accountable for your actions (or inaction, as the case may be.)

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Hey guys,

So I used to be the same, mainly because when ever I'd want to go out, none of my mates (who weren't 'going out' types) would want to go, and I'd feel weird.

So, I made friends with a few, unattractive but nice girls who did go clubbing, and did my thing.

To motivate yourself, find the ugliest (or most undesirable woman ever to you), take a photo, or print out a massive photo of her. Paste it on your wall. Keep in mind, you're not even gonna get that if you dont go out.

Or alternatively, grow the proverbial pair, and go out to a bar. sit and drink for a month, on the same night. ie, every monday for four mondays. see who is a regular, who stays who goes, etc and chat to them. get rid of the anxiety you feel when going out.
talk to anyone you see, on the street, getting your newspaper, anyone, anywhere. just for 2 minutes. they might invite you out.

in summary and from experience:
there are 3 main reasons why a guy doesnt want to go out

1. Social anxiety. - feeling strange, out of your depth, in a new place, or without your friends. Feeling like you dont belong, etc.

2. Not getting invited out - this is a major, but understated one. If no one is inviting you out, and you want to go out, its going to feel awkward as fuck. partly because you'll be going out alone, but also because you have no 'mental' reason to go out, which makes it easier for you to say no. if someone invited you out, you'd want to go, even just for a few minutes, in some cases to prove that you aren't a social recluse.

3. talk, but not doing the deed. if you say youre gonna go out, you better go out. with friends, without friends, drunk, sober, whatever.

if you worry about not being able to go out alone, remember that you need to learn to amuse and be happy by yourself.

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Thanks guys usefull advice.Anything else?

QFT

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