This is really starting to piss me off. I'm almost 21 and I've never had a gf, never kissed etc. This doesn't bother me. I truly believe when these things happen I'll be naturally good at them anyways, and since I've gone forever without doing them theyll be much more meaningful to me. And if Im not good at them, I'll work on them until I get good.

Everywhere I go, girls like me. I get stares and reactions from them that regular guys simply don't get. SO WHAT?? I ain't doing jack shit with it. I'm not opening, I'm not talking, and I'm not getting to know them. I'm just a good looking guy that they wish would get in their lives.

I've got good style, I've got great looks, and I've got my life together. Generally people think of me as a cool dude.

Even though I'm at the lowest point in terms of girls, people just assume I get laid and know how to talk to women just because of who I am and how I carry myself. I'm almost at the fucking breaking point. No, not suicide.

I'm getting so sick of wanting to talk to some chick I like. Then that bullshit gets in the way. What if shes got a boyfriend? What if she was only into you because you didn't show any interest? What if..? I feel one day I'm just gonna blow up and start fucking every girl I can get my hands on. I feel if I can just get started with the first chick. In my life I tried to get with one girl, and that was awhile ago. I've changed so much, and its like Im still afraid to show interest. Just glance at her until she meets your eyes and smile. I can't even do that. A light tap on the arm. I freeze up instead.

Today in class one of the hottest chicks I've ever seen was constantly making it known she wants me by subtle little body language cues. I made it a point to sit right next to her. So far I haven't even talked to her. If I see her face arched in my direction I cant even look that way. WHAT THE FUCK?? Doing these things are good, but only for building her up in the beginning. Then you have to act, something I don't do. Instead, the ugly dude that she doesnt even pay attention to on the other side has more balls than I do and strikes up conversations with her whenever he gets the chance.

Shit, someone please help me. This is getting ridiculous.

OMG dude this post is like I wrote it,we are the same age, same problem, and the same thing happened with a girl in class yesturday, and I did what I always do, nothing.
Weird...
Lately, Ive been thinking that those IOIs from girls that I get and most guys dont are imaginary. You know, when you greatly wish something is happening, you start imagining it is really happening while its not... How else would you explain those "other guys" getting laid here and there, while we who get all those IOI's do nothing...
I wish something would happen to prove me wrong...

I thought you were mocking me at first. Ever since I got contacts this shit has been happening to me, for the past 4-5 years. I still haven't gotten over my nerd phase and am horrible with girls.

It's like I can relate with alot of people because they're comfortable talking to me but my life is completely different from everyone elses. I also am pretty quiet unless its with people that have earned my trust so generally girls that are into me typically carry the conversation.

I created a journal in the field reports section, I encourage you to do so as well. Don't just get your woman problems together, enhance your entire life! I've started today and it's all forward from here. Frustration is a great motivator.

heres something to think about: what is the worst thing that can happen???? your not going to die of embarrassment, your not going to be belittled. the worst thing that can happen is this you get rejected. you get rejected all the time.. you only have 1 life and 90 years on this planet your almost a quarter of the way through already do you want to waste it on what ifs? the best advice is dont think about the what ifs or it'll drive you insane

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I'm in almost the exact situation as you. I'm 21, just moved out to Texas(College Station of all places, I have an apartment about a mile from Texas A&M), I've been described by "good looking" by people and girls love me once they actually get to know me. I have quite a few things going for me; I drive a Mach 1 Mustang, will be a Firefighter/Paramedic in a few months, have a pretty badass apartment, ect.

Most people that meet me automatically assume that I get enermous amounts of ass but the truth is that I'm STILL a virgin. It's rare for me to go a day without getting looks from a good looking chick. Over the years I've actually had a couple come all the way out and ask me for "friends with benifits" relationships, hottest one so far being a solid 8.

I've had the situation you've described in your post happen to me quite a few times in one aspect or another and it pisses me off. The worst part of the entire situation being that it's rightfully so the lesser one that actually had the balls gets head while I'm jackin' it to clips on PornHub.

Fuck this, I've decided that I'm going to quit being a god damn pussy and will try out the newbie mission at the mall next weekend. I'm tired of this shit.

That's awesome that you're finally motivated to change! Tell me how it goes. Better yet, start posting a journal so that youll feel slightly pressured to keep improving and testing your limits.

Honestly I love being good looking. However, it makes us spoiled. We get used to getting so many girls giving us IOIs that we sort of bathe in it and decide to do nothing. We start losing motivation because getting those IOIs from a girl youve just seen feels so nice that you don't want to lose that feeling. If you approach her and she shoots you down that attraction is lost forever. We don't want that. So you guys finally part ways wherever you may be and you never see her again.

Many of have been there. I for one have. And I've moved passed it. My advice is just go out regularly and try opening sets. Many times you will come home without opening any sets, and at first you will hate yourself and be deppresed about it. I remember so many nights coming home, filling out my FR file and it said "0 open sets again". But it doesn't matter. Just keep going out and one night you will say Fuck this, I'm going in. And you'll probably blow it, but it doesn't matter. Don't be afraid of losing girls.

As for being a cool guy, looking good, having good style it helps, but it doesn't get you nowhere if you don't approach. I used to do that all the time. That's passive game. And being passive is not attractive. It's a long way to succes, but you can there. I go on for hours, but I'll end up with two lines.

1. You have to be willing to sacrifize what you are for what you will become.
2. Picking up girls is easy, but a way to figure out how to is not.

goog luck man, I believe in you!

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what helped me was tagging along with friends who do alot more social events. i.e. clubbing. I became a club promoter with my friends.. and this opens you up alot imo. I wasnt into picking up chicks, just having a good time. I realize the chicks where there for the picking but I just didnt persue them at the time.

But when you mentally place yourself in a high status where there are alot of beautiful women, you build up that mindset that it isnt anything serious to talk to them.

Just got to put yourself in that hot guy shoes, she is just as worried about herself in your presence.

Thanks for the responses guys. Great points all around. I think you're right, Defy. I remember last year when I was wanting to ask this girl out for the longest time. Every day Id go home feeling like shit for pussying out. Finally I had enough of it so I told a friend, who then encouraged me to do it. I finally did. In the end I fucked it up but Ive never regretted mustering up the courage to talk to her.

This is also gold tekryder. I cant tell you how much feeding off a natural's game will do for you. Most of what I've become is due to a select few people I work with and started hanging out with. It's why my personality has become that of a 'cool dude'.