So today was my first day at my new job.
I am currently a "learner" and my teacher is an italian woman/girl (23y) whoos appearance might not be rated as a 10, but her personality makes her a lot more attractive to me than any other girl I've ever met.
I would say if you look at a picture of her and don't know her, she would probably be a 7.

So anyways, I'm going to see this woman every day now, and need some tips on how to evolve the relationship. She's very outgoing and talkative, and I'm the complete opposite, but she seems to like that.
I do need some advice on how to get her. Problem is lots of good-looking guys (Italians) are also starting at the work at the moment so I gotta move fast.
But, I still think I'm the best looking (would rate myself a 8-9 on a good day), but I miss all the "personality" and charm that these guys have.

Problem is though that I get anxiety in pressured situations, and on a bad day, say my hair doesn't look at it's best, or my skin is pale, I consider myself terribly ugly and can't do shit.

Need advice on how to overcome this and evolve my relationship with this woman.
I'm 20 if that makes a difference, so she's a bit older than me, which might chance the strategy a little bit maybe?

Congrats on landing a new job.

Few pointers:

1)Have no shame of gaming a 7.

2)She's talkative or extravert,and you're shy or at least not talkative;major hurdle for you.

3)Women(opened ones)do not like shy guys.

Why not?

Well you would be downing her vibe for instance.

Nothing in the world is a bigger turn off to women than a guy who strolls in set with lower energy than hers;unless your alpha about it.

Point is,you're gonna have to amp up your social vibing in order to get this girl interested & attracted.

If your energy & vibe are too weak,you're too shy,etc.she's gonna be turned off.

And stop focusing on you being better looking than other Italian co-workers;by now you should know that looks arent real factors in PU.

And you startingto gme her 1st.doesnt man anything.

You can still get blown out by an AMOG or better-skilled guy.

What you want to do now is to craete an impression on her of you being a fun-social guy;which you're not.

There's no other advise to give you in such situation besides being social,talkative,open and alpha.

Nothing strategic can help you.

It comes down to inner game for you.

If a more social/talkative guy comes in soon,he'll have the head start & advantage over you.

All he would need is tactical stuff.

You need inner-game stuff like having alpha personalities & being social.

There's no hope for a shy guy(you) amongst social guys unless you being reserved comes from dominance & coolness like James Bond.

So become social fast in order to have a chance with her.

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Thanks for the tips, even tho they made me a little depressed.
I am alpha though, even tho I might not seem like it.
I have a career as a criminal that goes back my whole life.
The thing is I'm not showing off as an insecure guy or anything, but there is a chance people might think I am as I'm very hard to read.
I almost never show any type of emotion to anyone, wheter it be happiness, fear or sadness. I almost always speak with the same tone in my voice, a pretty low one that might come off as weak.

But I'm gonna try chance it, but don't you think I should be myself, maybe just try to talk more, even tho I never come up with anything to say.

Thing is, I'm fearless when it comes to hit someone in the head with a baseball bat or go visit some drug dealer and threaten his family and life, but I get anxiety when in normal social situations with normal people. I don't have this anxiety when I'm around criminals, just normal people and especially women.
It's funny how life can be.

I guess that other peoples view on me is that I'm some normal pussy white guy.
But if they would get to know me they think I'm too sick in the head for them.
It's always been like that, "cool" guys come around and think they can play me or out-alpha me, but after hanging out with me for a while they notice how small they really are. I just need to be able to show this more directly, or in another point of view it might be good to have some kind of mystique around yourself?
Doesn't women like men they can't read or understand?

Lmao,yea I agree,nothing in the world could compare to the anxiety of meeting new women.

Guys will take risk at their live but bac down from meeting women.

To your question about mystique.

Sure,women are super attracted to guys who're hard to read.

But not typically in the sense of being shy but in not revealing whether you like them or not.

But I really dont see you sparking anything in this girl.

You being ultra-relaxed & alpha will get her curious but there must be more to your game than that.

Or the other Italianos & more opened guys will beat you out.

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Yea you were pretty much right in everything you said there, i tried the "60 years of challenge" method today which I read about yesterday here in the forum.
I thought that would fit perfect for me since I'm like a natural with that method. Damn, that went terrible.

First, I just followed what was said by creating a lot of awkward moments with silence and staring right at her, and now she won't even be around where I'm at, I'm the official office creep from now on .

Two days ago she liked me, she even came and hugged me and stuff like that but since after today she's avoiding me at all costs.

Haha, whatever. I need to train my game.

Cheers

Wouldn't recommend going for it unless she really does like introverts who are self conscious, lacking confidence and not really outgoing. Because you remember, you are at your job. She will also be there everyday man!

Extroverts will usually push introverts into doing stuff they usally won't do, this can be great if you plan on being more outgoing and confident. So unless you are really mad for her, use her as social proof and pre-selection dude.

Good luck anyway,

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@JimmyDoyle-Great advise.

I was basically saying the same thing;the introvert would have to step out of the box in order to do battle.

Unless the target's into the shy type;which I doubt.

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Your best chance is to be super solid stable grounded in your personality and live in your own reality so hopefully your reality is to live life on your terms and you can accept and understand that success is usually built from failure, forget what the other douches look like that does not help your game and fuk worrying too much about your hair or looks you dont need all the ducks to line up or you might be waiting forever.
If shes looking to date then she is probably looking for someone who has some manhood and can handle things so have a stong reality,if shes the fling type just be a regular 20year old she wants youthful random fun.
Forget 60 years of challenge that was written for doing the numbers with high risk kino and less comfort building for horny club girls.
One of the best experiences for me although not recomended was I asked out a girl from work and she said no, i stayed at that job another 2years and i tried to apply game every day in an attempt to recover my shattered ego peice by peice day by day but the lessons were priceless.So win or lose step up and get better.
peace.