If it's been a year and you're not making any progress on this on your own, you can try poking around here and seeing if anything bolsters your confidence. This thread puts me in a positive mood
frame-control-defining-reality-and-bein ... highlight= , but it's mostly for going to bars. If you can't fix this problem on your own, you should definitely admit that you're a little broken and see a therapist. It sounds like the level of help you need might take more than this site can offer and probably goes deeper than just being able to communicate with women (feelings of self worthlessness for example).