bottom line i pussy out before i sarge. I read forums... psyche myself totally up for it and as soon as i see a group of hot girls in the mall, my dick shrinks...my heart pounds... and my confidence shrinks to the size of a pea. i cant think of anything but i cant do it... i cant talk to those girls. any tips of how to get rid of this feeling. i want to go out and talk to some girls but i just fuckin cant...

bad case of AA....

ok doc, looks like we r gonna hook him up with a confident wingman.

If none can be found, he must do the mission.

the-newbie-mission-vt41556.html

I've found out after dozens of times punking out, that the feeling of laying my head down at the end of that feeling like a failure was so much worse than the anxiety of being in the actual mall. I sincerely wanted to do this, and I was letting myself down. I didnt want to allow myself to do that anymore.

Eventualy I worked up the courage and threw myself in a set. I played it conservatively and bolted out of there...but I did it. I could sleep later that night knowing I took the hardest step of all. Ever since then, my abilities have been getting better and better steadily and with more ease.

I feel for you bud, that first set will always be the hardest but it's just like the snowball rolling down the hill effect...but you have to start with the tiniest spec before It can grow. Maybe take things slower, and ask simple questions to women in the area maybe asking where a certain store is. Do that a few times till you work up the nerve, when you see a set you like, apply that 3-second rule and just GO. It'll feel like your asking a simple question like the others when you run the opener.

I am actually having the same problem but for weeks I have said I am gonna sarge today and make that big first step into opening my first set. The only progress I have made is that I now feel comfortable going to the mall alone. That already is a significant step but not a big one. I always get nervous like you but I am hoping this time I can actually open. I know I can do it. I just know today is the day (I hope).

One tip I have found helpful is something I learned my first time sarging. When I first did it, I had so much clutter in my head because I did not know which opener to use. I kept saying "this one is not good enough" right before I would approach. The truth is that the opener really does not matter. Choose only one or two openers and stick to them, don't change them. Also have the mindset that you are just talking to girls, having a conversation rather than hitting on them.

Same problem with me and my boy last night first time out in years for the two of us, hes had some sucess and is way more out going than me yet we wall flowered.

Don't worry about it mate, like everyone says the first step is the hardest, especially if your alone. You wanna know what got me out of AA, in a club I approached three women or maybe more telling them a really cheesy pick up line. Something to laugh to -I had a big smile on my face while i was saying it- like "here's 10p (10 cents), ring your dad and tell him you wont be coming home tonight" . And of course we both laughed, why did it help me? because it was so silly and stupid that it already made me lose the girl. If that makes sense. Then to my surprise some women actually responded, laughed and talked with me. I felt comfortable! In fact I somehow pulled using that approach with hb 7.

Overall, find out what works for you, maybe go shopping and ask for advice. Maybe get a job handing out leaflets? Maybe, crack a joke to three strangers for a week? Who knows, be creative, everyman can do this!

Same problem here.
I always freeze

guess what guys approach anxiety gone...

its a miracle... i just acted as if i was the prize.
what helps it to kino every girl you see in a crowd. even if you are behind them. just say excuse me like you were trying to get past them. that helped. also just go high on energy...

Congratulations! That's not a bad tip at all and an easy way to practice kino. I gotta get rid of my anxiety before my college orientation in three weeks. I gotta get to the mall asap and get it done. I know I can do it. I just gotta force myself to take action.