| first of all, if you haven't read The Game, read it, it may inspire you and give you confidence like me. second, what i have been doing lately is appraching random people using different canned openers and also putting myself in positions where i normally would not put myself in. for example, i am on a college campus, and i made a decision to eat lunch and dinner alone, and force myself to sit with a group of two or three girls. if that is too much for you, try sitting with one. use an approach such as "need your opinion on if i should get my little sister goldfish or a turtle for her birthday" maintain eye contact with one person, make sure your voice is in tone, hum to yourself before you speak toget the pitch right. two or three girls, approach with the same opener and switch eye contact with both the girls while asking the question. i have been doing this for a good few days now, and i do not get numbers yet. it is a victory that i was actually able to sit down and maintain a conversation, whatever it be, and then leave. i do not even introduce myself at this point yet either because i am still learning. not introducing myself (unless they ask me my name of course) is good too because it makes it seem like you are genuine and u weren't there to just pick them up. once you can maintain a convo just try to be funny. say something stupid, anything it really doesn't matter you just have to learn what works and what doesn't. don't be afraid to fumble or be awkward at first but try to supress it andit will naturally leave your system. everything attempt or intention towards a pickup is a victory in my mind, it should be in yours too.
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