Hi Guys,
Just a quick post, I have been into pick up for about 8 months now.
I have learnt quite a few tricks and now as a result I have a girlfriend.
Thing is, although I am really happy that I have found someone, the positive self improvement that I saw in myself while I was doing cold approaches and going through the process of pick up now has totally gone out of the window.

I like the girl that I am seeing, and yet I feel on the other hand that my growth and development as a person will be stunted now cos I am in a relationship.

I know she wouldn't like me to be doing cold approaches. I don't feel right doing them anyway while I am in a relationship. It isn't fair.

Has anybody else found this happen?
I don't know whether to ask her to leave it or to give up on pick up and just quit.
Cos having a girlfriend and being a pick up aren't exaclty compatible.
any ideas to help guys?
Yours confused,
Mr E

Mr. E,

sounds to me like your on a classic crossroads here.

One the one hand your new pickup life has given you much liberty and some choice in women.

On the other, we all want to pairbond and have that one special person in our life.

the problem is choice. If you're already in a serious relationship, you should at least share the feelings you shared with us with her. And then see if you can work something out. Perhaps you can just be fuck buddies and you can keep sarging.

And perhaps this will also give you other insights about wether she is the one for you or not.

Good luck

greetz Bucc

P.S. I love the Canary Islands! how's the weather over there?

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