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PostPosted: Thu Mar 29, 2007 12:38 am 
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well i was in barnes in noble and came upon a book called Discover Your Inner Genius by Micheal Gelb. i found some pretty interesting stuff, particularly with Chirtopher Columbus.

Each Chapter has a different genius and each chapter has a self assesment on each of the genius's attitude/ beliefs.

here is Columbus's Self Assesment

1: I have a dream and a vision that sets the coarse of my life

2: I can pursuade others to share my dream or vision

3: I can comminicate my ideas clearly to others

4:I research my plans thouroughly

5: I take a positive view of my setback, misfortunes, and mistakes

6: I am an optimist

7:I take the word "Impossible" as a challenge

8:I have the courage to pursue new Ideas

9:I am willing to experience discomfort in the pursuit of my dream

10:I believe my dreams will become a reality

11:I use practical knowledge to develope my ideas

12:I have a knack for calming peoples fears

Alot of these are key Masculine traits the true things women look for in men so i was surprised but another great thing is how christopher columbus is like an inspiring role model for those going where all else were afraid. I mean he was in a time where you could get hung for saying THE WORLD IS ROUND!!

back then all the explorers would explore with their ships along the coast line becuase they were afraid of falling off the edge of the world or getting lost

(in retrospect AFC MINDSET)

but columbus went perpindicular to the coastline

So a good thing to ask yourself next time your out in the feild in hesitation.

In what way am i hugging the coast line?

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Inspiring post, I especially like n.7.


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Good post Duke. I think this actually will help. I mean fuck, he probably had anxiety about maybe falling off the edge of the earth, if he believed what others told him to even the slightest extent. What do we have to be afraid of? I mean, we know the stuff works, right? We know that the worst that can happen is a good story...(get friends that can laugh at this stuff and not mock you, they are not good friends)...so why not explore this new world, be the first...

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When a guys starts to take on these kinds of attitudes he will find that his level of social approval goes down drastically. This can and frequently does act as a negative feedback for him. He is after all used (as an AFC) to looking for approval for all his actins. This can be argued to come from our childhood... a phase that the majority never quite manage to escape from. Social approval is for most guys..er... hugging the coastline.

These attitudes are indeed a good representation of the alpha mind set. Mix this with social awareness and ability and you will shine out as the alpha. To train this you have to be prepared to get shot down in flames many times of course. Just the same as in our wonderful sarging adventures. Put yourself in a social group with a strong Alpha and see what happens to your alpha integrity then. If he collapses you then pay attention to how he did it. This is a much better tactic that to punish yourself for being collapsed. We need to be clear that OUR INTERNAL STATE DEPENDS UPON US AN NOBODY ELSE. The next step is to make that true.

You need to forget about getting social approval as a means of feeling good about yourself. social approval is something that you can use to your advantage but not something that you should play fiddle to in any way. You are the alpha remember.

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great post.
great sentences.
well done, dude


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I Agree With Victoer. As Long as s osmeone keeps giving a meaning for his attiutdes an acts based on the external aproval he wont make it.
Its like the kinda person who tells a joke that can put him as a clwn just to get social aprobval and definately Thats nor part of a PUA mindset. a Pua acts not to gt social aproval thats not the meaning of his acts.

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Yes, all very good posts, ive pretty much only been on this site a day and already been made to feel welcome and read some very great and inspiring stuff.

Before the BOOM of PUA's , you know what i mean, alot of the same stuff did exist but was not gelled together.

Now its a recognised fraternity of sorts, one which i am greatful has been recognised. Ive been sarging long before THE GAME even started properly and back then all my mates (AFC's at the time) just thought i was a natural. I could only try to advise them as i felt like Joey in friends. P.S. im not that good looking, but a nice smile/manners/.and uber-confidence takes you a long way.

One of the things i used to tell one of my mates is.....

Anxiety approach, i used to refer to it like an invisable JUMP barrier, imagine your about to bungee for the first time, your ready to leap...you get that little knee-jerk reaction and you dont go, you will hit this "invisible barrier" a few times. Even if the girl is totally giving you the come on and masses of IOI's.

You wait till you get pushed off the platform...by then, NOTHING BUT AIR!! Fuuuuuck! you screem all the way down, then after your like....what the hell was i so worried about??..

Its the same with the approach, once you start your gob talking your in 110% or not at all. THats what i tell my AFC buddies im trying to help, you walk over to a set, your commited 110%. From there on.
..its "The Game"

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One great technqie a freind of mine does all the time


one thing to say is that this guy is a cunning linguist

the one thing he does all the time is that

whenever he tells a story to someone he never really says the names of the people in the stories

he just says "yeah, a freind of mine ... "

but this isn't the technique

the technique is that he tells a story "that me or one of his freinds is in"

becuase me or his freinds is in the story it cues us in and gets us thinking about that experience with him in the said "story"

great way to get value from freinds (without them knowing)

doing this will get your freinds to say things like

"yeah i remember that it was WACK!"

and much more

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One great technqie a freind of mine does all the time


one thing to say is that this guy is a cunning linguist

the one thing he does all the time is that

whenever he tells a story to someone he never really says the names of the people in the stories

he just says "yeah, a freind of mine ... "

but this isn't the technique

the technique is that he tells a story "that me or one of his freinds is in"

becuase me or his freinds is in the story it cues us in and gets us thinking about that experience with him in the said "story"

great way to get value from freinds (without them knowing)

doing this will get your freinds to say things like

"yeah i remember that it was WACK!"

and much more

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One great technique a friend of mine does all the time


one thing to say is that this guy is a cunning linguist

the one thing he does all the time is that

whenever he tells a story to someone he never really says the names of the people in the stories

he just says "yeah, a friend of mine ... "

but this isn't the technique

the technique is that he tells a story "that me or one of his friends is in"

because me or his friends is in the story it cues us in and gets us thinking about that experience with him in the said "story"

great way to get value from friends (without them knowing)

doing this will get your friends to say things like

"yeah i remember that it was WACK!"

and much more

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http://www.amazon.com/Fight-Be-Psycholo ... 646&sr=1-1

read this book and see how good your life is ...
after you read this you will be thankfull for your life and approach every girl....


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This is good stuff, you have to keep a tight innergame in order to succeed!

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