Alright if anybody actually reads through all this just wanted to say thanks. Ok I am now 19 years old and play baseball for my college. My freshman year of high school I met this girls who was extremely independent about everything. I didn’t care much at first but once the school year was over I realized I had a crush on this girl. I think the big reason was because she made me this CD of music that I never even new existed and basically I fell in love with it as well as her. Sophomore year came and went and I ended up going out with one of her friends. (I still liked her when I went out with her friend, I think I did it so I could get closer to her) anyway went out with the girl then broke it off with her at the beginning of my Jr year. I called the girl I liked the first night I ever really got drunk. I don’t remember what happened, but I heard she was pissed. I posted a myspace bulletin the next day saying sorry if I pissed anybody off and replied saying don’t ever call me again. That sucked. Anyway that was almost 2 or 3 years ago now and I still have thought about her every single day all through out each day, No joke. I think its effecting me now because I don’t really care about any other girls and its fucking up my approach with other women. I just basically cant stop thinking about this girl. Its been almost 6 years now that I have thought about her everyday. Weird I know. I have also dated a few other girls and slept with a few others but all the time I think about her. What the hell should I do?

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"Hitting is like the tides... There's high tide, and then theres low tide. But then theres high tide again"

I have same thing with my friends sister. Im 30 so its not an age thing the best advice I can give is too pursue her if you crash and burn you will know you have to move on.
I know you fear this because you have put her on a pedastool. But you would kick yourself if she gets serious with another lad.
There is no reason why you couldnt get her this time. Phoning drunk after break up was stupid but was a while ago.
Just go for it. This pua stuff works best on randoms.
Hope this helps. Please pm with result, dont bottle it.

Thanks for pointing out the pedestal. I think maybe trying to focus on her flaw's will be bring her down a little bit, but the big problem I am having is how do you approach or open contact with somebody like that without seeming crazy? Thanks again for the advice, and will post the results the day it happens!

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"Hitting is like the tides... There's high tide, and then theres low tide. But then theres high tide again"

could this be one itis? maybe you should seek consoling..

yea maybe some counseling or go approach her and see if u ever had a chance to get closure

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I would try direct approach I know its AFC stuff but I think works best with girls you already know. Give her a chance to think about it. Try for just a meet up daytime is better because seems less like a date. Maybe meet for coffee or something. Start small, gives big results. Good luck dont wait any longer.
Oh and yeah I asked my mates sister out. Crashed and burned lol.

Hey man I know what your going through and I can relate. I understand how hard it is to get over her but you have to come to terms with the fact of she is gone and you cant bring her back. I know what your thinking there is a chance that I can change her mind and we will get along great. That is only going to last for a while and things are definitely going to get wierd. The best thing to do is go out with friends and try to keep your mind off of her. Also like the dude said you really are putting her on a pedestal. On the other hand if she really means that much to you you need to call her and meet up with her face to face and tell her how you feel. I hope my advice was helpful in some way.

I had something similar that put me out of action for 4 years (keep reading it's not all bad). Long story short she was my world, I would frequently walk the 16 mile round trip to her house, she was a strict christian though and her family hated me (real Romeo and Juliet shit). In the end she met and married some family approved guy.
I asked her about it about a year ago and she said she always liked me but didn't want to make the first move. Couple of morals of the story, never over invest yourself in someone, it feels like spending your life building a mansion then it being torn down by a natural disaster. 2nd moral of the story go for it, tell her how you feel and if it goes wrong you have the closure you want.

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Dude I know exactly what your talking about... When I was an AFC I was really into this girl for like half a year lol, like what you said it F'd up my approach of other girls.. When I first began learning Game I realized what it was.. ONEITIS!! Dude you have to realize there are MILLIONS of other girls throughout the world just as intresting and as beautiful as her. If you really dont want anyone else, then you got look at that girl like she's just another target in a set... That'll make it alot easier. Good luck bro

i know my way is hard to do but for me and a few of my friends its worked...as soon as you start thinking about them you immediately call yourself out and force yourself to think of something else just push her out...its worked for me on two girls in the passed and it worked for my friend too its hard but i believe if you are willing to work at it and it is work it will do the trick...if your too far into this chick then sorry bro...but another think i just though of is i wonder if its just become habit for you since it has been so long...habits can be broken but they are tough...good luck man

Alright this is what i think im going to do. Im going to message her on Myspace but should i open up with something about being curious to what happened the night i got drunk? Or should I kind of play the catch up game and see how her lifes been? Thanks again for the help.

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"Hitting is like the tides... There's high tide, and then theres low tide. But then theres high tide again"

Id play catch up game dude, if you mention it right off it would show her that your stills stuck on it, and that you need her validation ect. Id just play it cool to start off, and show your best qualities ect, and see where that goes.

Hi Pacifico,

you're stuck in a loop of what ifs and what could have been. I think I can say that a lot of people have been there. It's not nice but you have to jump out of it. Forget her. Yeah easier said than done. It's good you want to find flaws with her. Just use your inner critic and focus it on her. I've never met anyone that's perfect, other than myself!

You have idealised this girl mainly out of fear that there is no one else as good if not better than her. Trust me there are good girls everywhere.

BTW the girls you have dated and had sex with would you consider them less than this girl? Do they physically resemble this girl?

If you haven't done this already try to go with girls who are physically opposite (but still hot) to this girl.

go for it. court her already. for your sanity's sake!

so what if she hated you? it was 6 years ago. maybe she has forgotten. if not, maybe she has mellowed out. if you let opportunities pass you by, and go on with the wrong choices (like dating her friend), then you may just become the biggest loser in her eyes.

if you are sincere about your feelings and is committed to the idea of having a serious romantic relationship with that girl, then it won't be impossible for you to touch her heart. difficult, yes it will be. but impossible, no.

good luck man!