I have a real inferiority complex with women. When I see girls, even ones I'm not necessarily attracted to, I feel unworthy. I begin to feel self conscious about my appearance, that there is no way they could be attracted to me and basically feel like women look down on me for no reason. Its like a paranoia that women are out to avoid me at all costs. Groups of hot girls seriously intimidate me and as much as I desparately want to get over my AA and start approaching, it just seems....impossible. I feel uncomfortable around girls, I struggle to make eye contact or smile as I pass by girls in social situations. I get really uptight and basically shy away. Even on the dancefloor when surrounded by willing, drunk girls just waiting to be approached, I can't even bring myself to dance near them

I have no logical explanation for these beliefs and behaviours. No girl has ever insulted me or looked away in disgust so why do I feel like this? This is the main thing I need to address at the moment as I know I can never have any success with women if I don't value myself higher than them.

Question: What is a girl?
Answer: A girl is just like you. With boobs.

Allow me to expand: First of all, I know exactly how you feel, I used to be frightened to death by chicks, rather facing the raging hordes of Hell than going up to a girl and (gulp!) TALK to her! Then I made an interesting discovery:

They are not GIRLS! They are PEOPLE! Just like you and I! They are not heavenly little angels (though they smell nice) created with sugar, spice and everything nice, molded into perfection! They are PEOPLE! They have messy rooms, they lag behind on their bills, they are concious about their appearance (btw. every time you think "What does she think about me?" I'm willing to bet you a dollar she is thinking "What does he think about me?"). They trip sometimes when they walk, they have messed up hair when they wake up in the morning, they even (brace yourself) FART!!

A girl is nowhere any different from, say, your friends, the cashier at the videostore, the bus-driver, all the other people you see around you everyday and probably never, ever have any trouble talking to. Stop making them special just because they are good-looking. They are not! They are just messed up little people, full of all the insecurities, strange quirks, weird ideas and odd behaviour, just like us! That's what makes us all humans. So don't make some big deal about her being beautiful or having a perfect body.,, she might just have smelly feet

you have to tell yourself that you are equal.. the more you tell yourself the more you believe it to the point where it becomes a natural thought for you

You can think of it like this too: depending on where you are, let's take a club for example, girls take a lot of time out of their day to "pretty up" before they go out. They put on nice outfits and take time to put on make up. They like when guys go up and talk to them. The girls I party with especially take [/i] a lot[/i] of time to get ready to go out at night and they always talk about how they hope a cool guy approaches them to hang out. There is no reason to not approach when they take all this time just to look approachable.