I don't know if this is a common problem with anybody, but I've heard from many girls that I come off as arrogant. I fond this funny because this is far from the truth, I mean I sometimes become the biggest self-conscious guy out there! When I ask some of these girls why did they think this about me, they said they had no idea, just the way I held myself.

Now, this was before I started training and I had a lot of interaction with the opposite sex due to my previous job. Mainly, I never really hit on any girls because most don't interest me at all, and the one's that do interest me are the one's that I view way too attractive for me. So, I usually just stay in the middle and don't hit on any girls at all. What I call "playing it safe". Apparently, that is giving females the wrong idea about me, and gives them more of a reason to write me off.

Funny thing, my boy from training said that I come off as smug and arrogant because I keep to myself and don't really communicate with a lot of people. Is this the issue?

I used to be like you. When I was younger, I was painfully terrified of women. Approaching them would be a challenge. Also, when I would talk to them, sometimes they were not receptive. It was brought to my attention by some of my friends that many of them saw me as being arrogant or even snobby due to the fact that I was shy around them. So it is possible that some of these women you are around may misconstrue your actions as being arrogant. Also, I would like for you to stop seeing some of these women as being out of your league. That is a mistake. If they interest you, just approach them. If it doesn't work out the way you hope, just keep in mind that HBs are abundant.

Yep. Arrogant is another version of shy.

I still hear that, but way less than I used to. It means you seem unapproachable, and appear as though you think you are better than others, and can't relate to them.

Be real. Smile. Listen when people talk. It takes practice, but it gets easier.

Arrogant is not a good thing. It makes women afraid to open up to you, and afraid to really get sexual with you.

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@Alphadog1,
I hear you. A big challenge to me is approaching women. It's funny, because when I'm given a work related task of dealing with people, I can do it. I mean, eventually I have to start being a pro with cold approaching total strangers and have them complying with what I say. Also, I have to learn not to put females on a pedestal. It's funny though, I tell my guy friends not to do it but yet can't follow my own advice!

@Sean M.,
I never looked at arrogance being another version of shy, but now I totally see the relation. It's like the kid in class who doesn't talk, no one likes him because they think he's better than everyone else. Totally unfounded inference.


Anyway, thank you both. I have a bunch of other questions that I may ask later!