I've been soaking up all the pickup material I can get my hands on for the last few years, and it's really helped me to become a strong, confident guy. Now at 22 years old I have just started college (late I know) and it's completely killed my confidence.

I've found it really difficult to keep up my game here at college, especially when it comes to simply making friends (I have quite a few friends outside school). I'm a freshmen so almost all of my classmates are 18 year olds, often time making me the "old guy" in class. In fact the 2 or 3 friends I've been able to make are people my age or older (other non-traditional students). Consequently I'm not getting invites to parties, except little get together with the older friends.

But once the school day ends, and I go hang out with the friends I already have, I resume my typical alpha role. However, my betaness at school is starting to negatively effect my overall game and sociability.

Anyone have any comments or advice about this? I initially thought I would avoid trying to relate with these people, but rather take a role as and older, but cool guy, but I'm having difficulty getting these 18 years old to care.

I think your being affected by situational confidence, its a crutch some people use. For example if you were to put a bartender in a academic setting such as a class room would his confidence be the same as is if he were at the bar surrounded by people constantly vying for his attention? Or how about putting a teacher in a bar setting his or her confidence would naturally level off compared to when they teach. Inner confidence comes from within not from external objects. You may be asking yourself why is it so hard for me? The only thing that I could come up with is your inner game may be misdirected.

I think you've got something there. I'm a really funny guy and I usually thrive on making people laugh and getting that attention. I've had one or two situations in my Communications class for example. I really don't talk to anybody in that class, but if the professor asks me something I will usually say something funny that the whole class will laugh at, and that will charge up my confidence for about 5 minutes after that, but if I don't get a constant stream of this kind of positive attention I lose my confidence.

hey man!!! im in a very similar situation to u. I just entered college at 20 yrs old, and Ive been reading PUA material for a few months now, and they built my confidence to a very high level. I tried pickup for the 1st 2 days at orientation, didnt get the results i wanted and my confidence has dropped lower than when i started reading pickup, and its been there ever since ur situation seems to be a bit better than mine tho

I entered college at age 18, but still experienced this same kind of thing. I honestly don't think much difference exists between people aged 18 and aged 22. At least not socially. Most likely you just haven't gotten yourself into the mindset of "this is where I am now and I can still be the same person I have been." Its all about getting yourself used to being yourself in this new scenario.

Force yourself to talk a little more in class, both to professors and to other students, maybe attend some social events and try and run some game. After you get some experience and prove to your subconscious that this new scenario isn't much different, you should be fine.

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Try making friends with people that are at the hot parties.

What goes on in their mind is basically, *how does being your friend benefit me?*

People want to make friends with social, lively, adventurous people. If you dont display that in class when thats your best chance to make friends, you arent going to get it done. Yes it is tough, but as everyone being freshman, its a bit easier than breaking through as a transfer student like I am coming in my junior year.

I have had great success, I just started this school and I couldnt be happier with myself.

I am friends with alot of frat guys, some younger girls in my core classes, and I am at parties, apartments, and houses every weekend.

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