I have an idea:

Not sure if this belongs here or in confidence building, but I'll have it moved if necessary.

For some time now I've heard of the term "Frame" and "Framing". I'm not entirely sure what this means, but I've gathered it refers to placing oneself in the right "frame of mind", so as to bolster confidence, and kind of switch into PUA mode.

I read in a post elsewhere about using NLP on oneself in order to help a person get into the right frame when necessary. And a few nights ago, I discovered that I couldn't get into the right frame. I have yet to find my trigger that brings out the social, outgoing PUA in me. Sometimes it happens by chance, other times the trigger is forced (i.e. by alcohol lol), and the rest of the time, I might as well be invisible.

So my idea was to anchor (in a similar way to NLP anchoring) those feelings of confidence, sociability, and spontaneity within a physical item - say for example a ring, or a chain, or a suit or something that can be worn. The idea here is that the act of putting this item on would trigger that inner PUA and help get into the proper frame.

Anyone have thoughts on this? On the proper way of going about doing this? Perhaps the best thing is to always be in the positive frame, but as a very visual person, I find that this may help.

Any ideas / views?

Q.

Sounds a little dumb, but I loved NLP for dummies! Especially the confidence building and retort parts. You'll find it on Amazon, and it should answer most questions. But, keep a positive frame of mind, and never thing you can fail...and I find switching to my clothing helps. I, at the start, tried to wear at least one piece of my PUA wardrobe, even around local, and found at first it really helped to boost confidence, but now, all I simply have to do it thing about the object. Like I said above, refer to NLP for dummies. Its lighthearted enough to read on a night, and a great reference. And no, its not my book. XD

Oh, and great name Q!

8Bit....

Thanks for the reply. I'll be sure to check out the book. I've found that music, more than anything else, helps to set the right frame of mind for me.

And thanks for the compliment!

Cheers,

Q.