i havent posted anything here in a while mostly due to having a girlfriend... thing is i miss pick up so much i started getting really good at it and taught one of my friends it and i see him getting girls and i see him fail in areas that i could stop if i could still wing with him... so basically i need a way to split up with my girlfriend because i dont want to cheat on her and i kinda dont want to upset her all options welcome
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its going to be hard to not upset her if you are breaking up with her m8. its an upsetting thing to happen to anyone, especially if you have been together a while. you have options tho;

cheat.-i know you said you dont want to but if you consider that if you are discrete she wont find out and wont get hurt then its not too bad all round. you win, she wins, your mate wins, the girls win. (thats how i manage to rationalise and justify it to myself anyway)

ask her how she would feel about an open relationship or having mltr's. she might say yeah if you explain how you feel, not ready to settle down, still got wild oats to sow etc, dont want to cheat etc, maybe your relationship could go bk to being exclusive in a year or 2 etc. also she may finish with you over this if she takes offence, also resolving your dialemma and she will be less hurt as she decided to ditch you.

hope this helps

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If you respect her, just be straight up and tell her that you're not really looking to be in a relationship right now.

Seems odd that you've found a girl and will dump her because your friend needs a wing.

Why not just start implanting the idea of her having sex with a woman as her fantasy. Then you can Sarge with her. I used to go on the pull with a couple of FB's and have some great experiences from that!

If you really want to split up with her, tell her you love her. She'll probably freak out if you've only been together a little while. If you're already saying you love each other, then stop. You'll have to stop doing anything with her, and say "Our relationship has changed and I see you more like a sister."

Or you could do what I prefer. Artificially create an incident or an emotional feeling that it's not going to work out between you two, and she'll dump you. That way you're still friends and you're not the bad guy!!!

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This truly sucks!!!