I suppose I'll set the stage for everyone.
Aroudn the time when I first started posting here, a few months back I had an extreme issue with being scared to initiate sex in a LTR. It was pretty pathetic, but I was a virgin, I was timid, and to me, thanks to society, sex was some sort of ultimate ever-evasive goal, both pleasurable, and rewarding.
Anyway, as time went on I slowly progressed and became less of a pussy, so to speak. Finally, I was pleasuring my girlfriend, and she was attempting to return the favour.

Basically, I never could finish from handjobs, generally I stopped her from going at it for too long because it would start to hurt.

Oral sex felt pretty amazing, but still I couldn't finish.

After a while we started having sex.

Now, a lot of the time women have some sort of idea in their head where they are automatically sex stars, that they don't need to do anything and every guy will love it. From some of the stories I hear, that may be true for some, but it really isn't for me.

I am pretty capable of pleasing her, but I feel she's selfish and hasn't stopped to think about if I am enjoying the experience or not. Unfortunately, I do c*m from sex. After about 40 minutes of going at it, I will finish.

But, sex with her is pretty bad. I'm not going to be as ignorant as to say sex in general is bad, but it seems so boring, almost ruined for me.

She's quiet, I know she orgasms based on the signs and the contractions, and I know not every girl is noisy, but honestly, noises are sexy to me.

She plays dead during sex. She tells me that she's just enjoying it, but it's not enjoyable when I do all the work, i've tried to get her to move her hips a bit or even just be a little more alive during sex, but it still sucks.

And finally, it doesn't even feel that great. After fourty minutes of thrusting in and out, getting tired, bored, and maybe even hungry, when I c*m i ask myself if i'd rather just have masturbated for about 5 minutes, and generally speaking the answer is yes

unfortunately it is not wise to cut someone off from sex in a relationship unless they are doing something wrong, or at least i believe that. And as far as I know, she isn't doing anything wrong, she just sucks at sex.

Absolutely terrible at it, I don't know how else to put it.
I tried tearing apart the web for other guys who thought sex was boring, but all I could find is all women complaining about how sex is so boring for them how their men suck at it, and whatever, that's fine if thats what the majority is, but being the minority doesn't mean I want to live a life missing out on something that is supposed to be so great.

I continue to have sex just because I continue to hope it will get better in time, but it really doesn't seem to be going to great.

After sex, she's all sweaty and flushed and is all, 'oh why do you feel so good?' well, the answer to that is: i like to be good at things, and i thoroughly research everything before i try it understanding that i am NOT naturally talented at anything nor should i assume that.

Not saying that I am some sort of better being, but I think more people need to be like that.

Dude two words - Kama Sutra.

Get this book or go online about sexual positions displayed in the Kama Sutra manual. I find that girls get aroused when they experiment with different positions. Plus there are hints and tricks in there for the girl to learn as well.

If she was also a virgin, then you need to lead the way. If not, then she never really experimented enough. If she won't, get a new girlfriend.

It is what it is.

Best,

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

Yeah different positions is the way to go as J-Dub said, there are plenty out there and hopefully you can find one pleasing for both of you.

Another suggestion, probably not the one you want to hear, is find other girls, experiment and learn. I would honestly have to say that my sex life with my first girlfriend was pretty bad and not nearly as fun as it should have been, although your situation is a little more extreme. We were both virgins at the time and didnt know what we were doing. My second girl luckily was very experienced and pretty good with sex and that made it so much easier and better; hence sex became great. I now have learned alot for the future.

Those are your only options as far as I can see. Try new things with her whether it be positions, locations where you have sex, or try things like food (whip cream, etc..). Good luck man

thanks guys. i was pretty upset at the time as you probably could see, haha. i just got pretty disappointed that sex was so, vanilla. anyway in order to save the relationship (i was daydreaming about what having sex with other girls would be like all the time) i broguht up the fact that we should try to change it up a bit and we looked at some online. she's pretty opposed to anything that stops her from being able to kiss me, because she feels it lacks some intimacy, but, we managed. it still takes quite a while, maybe my next rant should be about condoms. haha.