Hi all, im new here, and i had a specific situation happening to me a week ago im trying to figure out the meaning...

I got this girl i've been taking it slow with her, its not something i just want to bang and left for dead ( you could say i'm suffering from oneitis but i'd say im not...)

anyway to keep the story short i met her trough a friend, we decided to go out with a friend of mine (that she doesnt know) and his girlfriend as something like a double date...we danced a lot but since shes a super carefull person about people she doesnt know i was even suprised she agreed to come out with me and a couple that she doesnt know...

I didnt wanted to push her too much that night cause im thinking hey if everyone of her friends is telling me she's super carefull with new people i guess they must be right...so all we did was dance a little bit of hugging...you know making sure she's having a great time and stuff...

So after few hours she ran into some guy that is obviously someone she knew judging from a reaction, but not someone she was superhappy to see....so i let them talk and i saw him trying to talk her into going with him in another room....she declined few times guy left, and came back like 10 mins later and started talking her into going with him and after a while she came to us and said TO MY FRIENDS GF, that she will be back in 10 minutes....after 2 songs we decided to leave home so i went there and told her...she raned back right...


So my question is....what do you guys think about the situation and why did she when she said went to my friend's GF to tell her that she will be coming back in 10 mins and not to me...because up to few hours ago she didnt even knew her...and after all i brought here with us not her....

maybe im overanalizing but im curious to know what do you guys think this means...and what would you do in that situation...cause TBH the conversation she had with that guy didnt sound so unwelcomed that i would feel free to break and drag her out of it....

If a girl I invited out did that to me...I'd leave. I wouldn't put up with that. I'd tell my other friends that I was with that I enjoyed seeing them and appreciate them coming out. Then I would tell them that I'm not sure what the heck she is doing but that its not cool and I'm leaving.

If she wants to hang out with some other guy more than her date then that's fine but I'm not going to put up with it and you shouldn't either. Have some respect for yourself man. You're worth being with and if she doesn't see that then too bad for her.

Jon

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

Hi JSmooth, appreciate the input and you have a point there...

Reason I did not do that, is because her jacket was on my wardrobe number so I couldn't leave without interacting with her...and the fact that when i came to pick her up she showed up with a freaking rose for me....

so 10 min later after she left i went toward her and just told her we are leaving she practically ran back...afterwards i was walking in front of her and she decides to come close and grab my arm pretending she's afraid of falling on a slippery floor...it was so obvious that he wants some touching, i just looked at her weird and said..."ok walking in high heels really isn't your thing is it? " she seemed offended but kept holding my arm...


so you see my dilemma?

Yeah the signs are there that she likes you but that does make things kind of slippery. I'd go out with her again just the two of you and see what happens. That's about all you can do, but just keep an eye out for what her body language is telling you as you hang out together.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

JSmooth has it right.

She is definately interested in you. Maybe you are playing a bit too hard to get though and the guy thing at the club was a shit-test. I don't know, but it sounds like it.

But yea, if a girl did that to me and spent most of the evening with another guy, I would have told her I'm leaving and for her to take a cab. She could pick up her jacket later. That should be hint enough.

If she is gonna make up for it, it better be a F-close and not some rose in hand. It was rude of her to do this in front of you and your friends.

Best,

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

J-dub thanks also for the input...tho she was not with him most of the night she was for like 10 minutes....then i decided we should leave and told my friends im taking them home...

maybe not a statement too strong but I sorta took charge..

TBH it does look a bit like a shit test yeah....but i figured at the time i better play as if it doesn't bother me than to allow her to provoke something that could be taken as jealousy.

I'll take that playing too hard to get into consideration...

Well she is celebrating new year's eve with me so...we'll see how that goes...not exactly a perfect night to test it given that that night guards will probably be a lot lower than usual....but its a safer bet nonetheless for success nonetheless

thx one more time..