I went to a club a couple nights ago and I wanted to talk to some girls but no one was talking, EVERYONE was dancing. There was like no sit down locations and the club was pretty small. But the club had loads of potential. It frustrated me! My friend who is kind of a natural was like "just go up behind some girl and start grinding one her," this is what every guy does and I think its pretty creepster (some guys tried this move on girls I was w/ and they got freaked out).

I think the PUA is different then every other guy in most circumstances, even on the dance floor.

How do you dance in a club? Grinding seems easy but idk about dancing alone. Are there any resources on this stuff?

Hey eddy119 Generally dancing is not good for communicating.
The fact is girls dance so they dont have to listen to boring guys!

Because it's loud.. Somtimes this means u dont need to say much, if anything at all to make out with girls on the dancefloor.. or practicly have sex on the danceloor clothes on of course (I've had girls taking items of my clothes off and it didnt go down well with the bouncer).. LAWL!

Here's 10 of my own best dancefloor tips:

1. Before you start the night, who are you going to be? the fun guy? the funny guy? the coolest guy? the cute cuddley guy? Who you decide to be affects all your actions! Which in turn affects your outcomes.

2. For dancing I'd recommend going out with a pivot (female wingman) that you can talk to on the dancefloor. Keep it short and make her lean in. This gives you preselection to other women who are looking.

3. DONT be looking around for interesting things like HB's boobs! Remember your a PUA you are the most Interesting person on the dancefloor and own the most valuble space so ACT LIKE IT!

4. Learn how to dance, im not going to get into styles.. There is no right or wrong but for your own sake.. BE IN TIME TO THE MUSIC!!! (drinking alot only makes you look retarded on the dance foor.. count ur drink intake).

5. Peacock and wear a key item, if you look differant girls will notice, just make sure u can handle the social pressure that comes with looking differant. DONT let other guys tool you around either, be careful who you give your power away too, even giving a guy a high five is saying to everyone i accept this guy.. he is as cool as me.

6. You dont need to pay attention to girl just because she comes up to you and says: you have sexy hair, or whats your name, or you dance hot, or comments you key item. Instead by NOT giving approvel straight away and flicking ur hand like ur telling them to go away can raise your social status dramaticlly. Remember your the PRIZE, your the one who is doing the QUALIFYING! (Personally because of this i've had 9's and 10's come up to me and literally grab my hand and drag me off the dancefloor just to talk to me).

7. DONT be one of those fucking annoying loser guys that goes around trying to sneak up and grind girls from behind getting in their space only to be pushed away by there girlfriends.. only to then walk around and do the same thing while every girl is looking at them going what a loser! I hope he doesnt try dance with me.

8. DO be that fucking cool guy that spectates the whole loser guy getting shutdown by some HB, initiate eye to eye contact with her over the shoulder as soon as this happens and make what i like to call a "re-enactment" of what just happened by just pointing ur left finger at the loser, pointing ur right finger at her and then make ur left and right index fingers "kiss" as it were smooching them together (putting a kiss face on also helps illustrate this). she'll most likely laugh and shake her head and make a face like she is going to be scarred for life. In which case you now have an opening if she hasnt already initiated conversation herself to tell you "NO WAY in hell would i touch that guy he was CREEPY!".

9. If there is a goup of girls taking a photo on the dance floor.. Jump in, remember your famous..! Get individual photos with them kissing you on the cheek remember they are your crazy fans (this also give you a good reason to get there myspace as thats most likley where the photos will turn up).

10. Lock yourself into place as soon as they have been opened, on the dancefoor it is essentual that you are not behind her and not to face her front until she is comfortable with you through keno escalation, instead face the same way as her, because when you are beside a girl, then you are ON HER SIDE! You see what she sees! this triggers her into thinking your already her friend. (I've been on those raised dance platforms with 9's and 10's and had them asking me "how are we going to get rid of these losers" pointing to all the other guys on the platform!).

There you go Eddy, this stuff is PROVEN TO WORK! Tried and tested by me mate.
If you dont know much about it you need to learn alot of keno escalation. When your on the dance floor and your social status is high enough.. Actions will speak louder than words.. Prepare to get violated by some HB's

If anyone has ANY questions or comments, don't hesitate to ask,
Mischief

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Thanks for the post Mischief i'll defnitely keep that in mind next time I go to this club.

Do you have any other references on how to dance (like actual technique)? Are there dance classes and stuff avaliable??

In addition to the awesome reply, I will add that you will eventually acquire a dance model that is more in-keeping with your presonality and then you'll start rocking that shit with skill. That's how most folks (self included) roll on the dance floor. Dont become a dance expert overnight and don't have that sort of expectation from yourself. At first I couldn't dance for shit, but then I "acquired" moves over time to suit many genres playing in the background:D

Yeah like Tichondrius mentioned, dancing has to match ur style.. and what kind of music you like. Personally iv'e done a fair bit of latin / modern jive, which i liked because its all about moving ur hips.. and for girls dancing is related directly to sex.

I really reccomend getting into doing body rolls, these make it look like you know what your doing to everyone else and looks especially sexy when done really close to your pivot for preselection or with some HB.

I know it sounds retarted but the quickest way to learn body rolls is by practicing up against a wall. Start with the top end of your body touching the wall and bottem end further away. Slide down to chest and abs while pulling ur head back, then to ur pelvis and lastly your knees where the top half of your body is now the furtherst part from the wall, at this point flick back to the start. look "body roll" up on youtube if you still dont understand what it is.

I'm sure there are group dancing lessons at night time somewhere near you for the kind of dancing you'll relate to most. Most of these classes u just pay like $10-$15 at the door and you'll learn basic things pretty quick. All the classes ive ever been too you dont need to bring a partner because you rotate (but it'd be a good idea to bring your wingman or piviot along so you can both go out).

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Good tips mischief.

What I also like to do is giving her the hip. Just pretend she's in your way and then say "excuse me "(don't forget to give her the make place look). This one is gold , you can follow up by telling her to show you her moves (qualifying). If she does it properly you can tell her that she can be your dancemate.(you do need some dancing skills in case she asks for your moves).

Another playful one is when she's dancing crazy ask her what dance she's doing and that she should teach you that one.

Yeah these are all great tips

It looks like the most common dance to learn would be a little bit of hip hop right? I have been going to salsa for several weeks now but I had no idea how I would incorporate that into a dance club situation.

But that body roll is pretty sick, and the site on youtube that talks about it shows some other cool moves too (maybe hip hop 2 step?).

I found this too, I might try some of these:
http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/200 ... -by-craig/ (this link re directs try to open it in another window)

But thanks again. Any other tips are appreciated

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I read or heard somewhere that the louder the club the hotter the girls they use it as a defense mechanism or something to keep losers from hitting on them!

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Yep.