Ok so I have been with and been living with my gf for about 4-5 years. She is the best gf I could probably ask for only problem is she's not the one (that I have oneitis for).

The one that I always come back to is this other girl who I have known since early elementary. We have never fucked and that might be the problem. We have a long history of going out and not fucking before, she's a real player and loves stringing guys putting them under her spell. Last winter she showed up out of nowhere and invited herself over to my place. She said she just broke up with her boyfriend. After a party we ended up making out on my bed and just when I unhooked her bra and grabbed her tit she says no and that she doesnt want to do this to my girlfriend. We ended up not fucking which has haunted me ever since. She did come around again after another party, we made out and she even said she should've fked me that night and that she wanted to be with me. I take her word for it and prepare to break up with my gf. After a few days though the other girl says pretty much that she doesn't want be with me any more and that she never will.

I hadn't spoken to her in about six months since she said she doesnt want me but I still miss her. We chatted through text very briefly a little over a week ago. I just couldn't help myself and caved in so I said hey. Told her about my new job. She seemed happy to hear from me despite having a new boyfriend now. I told her to come see me at the office sometime and she said she would and that I should go see her sometime as well. She said we should meet up a few times so I guess she still does want to see me. She also knows all about PUA and is pretty damn good at it herself so she doesn't fall for a lot of stuff that is too obvious.

Our last text conversation pretty much ended in an agreement that she would come around to see me at work. She said I should go see her to which I told her to come see me FIRST and she said OK. I haven't heard from her since which is about a week ago. Should I wait to hear from her or is it acceptable to be the one to initiate another conversation? Feeling like I'm losing my patience and I really want her back.