About 3 months ago, I met a girl at a function put on by a separate company. We sort of were neutral with each other, but I shot her a text anyways. We chatted for a little while so naturally I didn't have any expectations of anything. But then we went back to the company thing a few months later. She was aggressively flirting with me, and I sent some mild flirting her way. (example: We were looking in a store for something and I mentioned how she was a shitty shopper because we had been looking for an hour and she said "well you're distracting me." A few days later I found out from another person that she had a boyfriend who she had been dating for 2 months, but he was away for about 3 weeks on vacation. So I just stopped trying. But the day after this I found out that she wanted to do something with someone who wasn't her boyfriend (AKA hint at me) So next day, boom she kisses me. We swapped tongues for a little but that was it. I thought that would be the last time that I would see her. About 6 days later I just realized that I would love to see her again, so I called her up (fully knowing that she has a boyfriend) and asked her to dinner. She accepted. So I go down to meet her for dinner and it was just awesome. We had a great time, feeding off each other very well. After dinner, we do some light hooking up for a while, and eventually I took her home. Then the next morning I get a facebook message from her saying that she left her phone in my car, so we would need to meet up again. So we meet up again which led to some more light hooking up. Then we saw each other again the next day after that. With more serious hooking up. Finally I asked her to come up and visit my town ( I had been going to her area for the last 3 meetings) She wanted to come up to see it seeing as I live in a smaller town. And we had another great time out at dinner. Then afterwards we were just really in the moment and we ended up performing oral on each other. After that date her boyfriend came back from his vacation. She posted a few pictures of them together at social functions, the first time that she had ever done that ever on her Facebook. We've texted a few times since then, but it was just been small talk. The other night, I asked if we could talk on the phone. She agreed, and we set a time.
She didn't call initially but did a few days later. When we talked, she said she couldn't leave the current guy while they were still in school together and because he hadn't done anything wrong. I told her I understood and then said I would still love to see her. She intially said she wanted to meet with me later during the week but then she said she wasn't sure if she could because it was different with him being back in town. She said she would let me know if she felt up to it but she never did. A few weeks before that she asked what I was doing for summer, but on the phone she only mentioned that summer was "fair game." I couldn't tell if that was an open invite for a summer fling or what. That phone call was 3 weeks ago and I haven't heard from her since. Other than occasionally liking each others facebook and instagram posts we haven't communicated. I've been really distarught about it. And even though hanging out with other women and friends distracts me it isn't enough. The real kicker here is that her current boyfriend is leaving the country for good in 6 weeks and they're going to break up then.

I have just caught up in the whole thing. Is she just trying to finish with this guy who's leaving for another country for good, and then jump to me? I really want the opportunity to see her again. I have a feeling that she and I could hit it off again really well. Do I have a chance once the other guy leaves? Obviously I just don't want to sit around and wait, I am sort of seeing 2 other girls right now, but neither of them are as appealing as her. We are both going to be in the same area for a gradation week at a local beach. Do I hit her up when I get down there and see if she wants to hang? What is the move here? And the biggest question I have: Will I see her again? Thanks everybody. I'd appreciate any input.

You gotta take more initiative. It sounds like you're really sidestepping the fact that she has a boyfriend. The truth is, the boyfriend is obviously a cockblock for you, but if she likes you (and she gave you head, which i'm assuming doesn't happen to every man she meets) and you like her, which you obviously do, you should just take over the relationship and give her a great time.

I promise you (if everything you said is 100% accurate) that she wants you to take her home and pound her into oblivion, but she doesn't want to come across as a slut because for cheating on her boyfriend, both to you and her friends. The only way to avoid this is to take matters into your own hands, escalate, and have sex. You've had several opportunities already, just be a man, man.

You're talking about just hitting her up and asking her to hang out? Something along those lines? Or saying that I miss her or what?

Ya sounds about right. I'm pretty hazy on the logistics of your situation, but just text her and say something like: "I'm gonna be in xyz location for business stuff, let's meet up after." I'm not huge on dinner, but maybe some chill, laid back bar where you can order a few drinks and just relax and talk. then just escalate the kino, and push it toward making out. She may push you back at first, she might not, but if she does take it as a sign to take a step or 2 back and continue as if nothing happened. Then when you start making out, casually say "We should get out of here, let's go back to my place." When you get her back to your place, just keep escalating until sex.

Define hazy on logistics? And someone else suggested that I post a picture of me hanging out with other women so that she sees it. They insisted that she would hit me up because of it. I'm just throwing out other perspectives simply because I want to make sure whatever I do it works. I'm willing to hit her up but what if she doesn't answer? Or says she has work or something?

Hazy on logistics = I'm not sure where you live in relation to her. Don't send her a picture of you hanging out with others girls, that's super gay and will set you back. If you hit her up and she doesn't answer, then she's really not into you and it's time to move on. If she answer and she's busy, tell her you understand, still want to see her, that you are busy on xyz days but are free on abc days, and ask if she can do anything on abc days.

I live about 40 mins away from her. In regards to hanging out with the picture. They meant that I should post one on facebook, or instagram. So that she could see it publically. Do you think it would help to wait until this guy shes dating leaves the country? Or just rush it?

I know what you mean, and it's super beta, and she will likely see through it.
You shouldn't ever "rush it" rather, continue progressing the relationship at a rate that feels natural to you. If you want to see her, tell her. If you want to go be single and bar hop it up, do that. The point is, you're overthinking a very simple situation. She obviously likes you, you obviously like her, so get together and express your mutual feelings. Also remember, you don't need this girl. If you ever get the "needy urge" vent it out on the forums.