I just would like to say that being short sucks, and I know some of you are going to say I'm just blaming my height for my lack of confidence or something like that, but I can say in all honesty that if I had the same exact personality/wealth/looks/etc but if was at-least average height (5'9-5'10 depending on where you live) my life would be easier.

For one girls generally like tall guys more (I'm not saying that they can't like short guys but it's a heck of a lot harder when you're shorter.
Also, guys (particularly tall jock-y guys, or even just average tall guys) treat you with less respect and you can't even do anything about it because if you do there's a chance that your going to get into a fight and your inevitably going to get beat.
Short people are also even more likely to get paid less (you can look this up too if you want to, I'm sure you'll get some good factual evidence on this.)


I'm basically an average Joe and all, and my social skills are decent, but I'm just saying If I was 5'10 or even 5'9/5'8 it would be a lot easier than me being 5'4.

Anybody else on this forum that's short and has had similar problems? Or maybe a different situation, I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Well, when you have disadvantage of somethings other have,
You have advantage of other things they don't have.

If you look at Kevin Heart, he uses his comedy to stick out. (Example)
Just believe in yourself & pick up.

Seems like I have to bring this up again...

There is a guy called Nick Vujicic. The dude has no limbs. I repeat. The guy has no arms, or legs. Yet this guy is one of the most confident men I've ever met. Needless to say he has a wife and kids.

Also, there is a guy called Stephen Hawkings. I'm sure some of you know him. He has ALS and as a result he can't move. He can't even move his mouth now. Yet this asshole managed to cheat on his wife with his nurse who got pregnant THREE FUCKING TIMES.

I'm sorry man, but it's all in your head. If a guy without limbs and a paraplegic can get laid, then anyone without nearly as severe malformations can absolutely not use their looks as an excuse.

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Stephen Hawking is a mother fucking playa. But really guys. I'm not that much taller. At 5'7" people still consider me short. I have an LTR who is definitely out of my league in the looks department and is probably slightly taller than me. But she's still crazy about me because I'm kind of a big deal... Hah, foreal it's all about what you do with what you have. If it's that rough for you, there are plenty of 5' tall girls out there.

To compensate with your lack of height is to use command and challenging tonality. What attracts a girl is dominance ... Being tall is one way to appear dominant.
Another form of dominance, specially for short guys, is to use command and challenging tonality.

Command and challenging tonality (CCT) is tonality that drops at the end of your sentence.
- Examples are people who have authority like, police officers, your dad, principal, your boss.
- It's like how a police officer would speak to you when you are caught doing a criminal offence.
- The opposite is a homeless person begging for change saying, "Please sir, do you have any spare change?"

Females ... people in general ... are raised to submit to this tonality.

Have this naturally occur as you speak. Watch your game fly! You will perceive to have a tall aura ^_^.

So be:
1) Bread deep.
2) Be loud.
3) Pronounce all the syllables.
4) Punch the girl in the face with your voice.

Example:
1) Hey, your cute! (with CCT)
2) What do you do?! (with CCT)
3) What's your name? (with CCT)
4) Interesting? (with CCT)
5) Really? (with CCT)
6) Everything that comes out of your mouth ... (with CCT)

The girl will qualify her self to you more!

Sincerely,

Donston

PS ... Don't forge to add a smirk whenever you do this to avoid looking like an asshole.

Biggest problem with being short is not the height itself but how it affects your self confidence.

I see all of your points but it's tough seeing all these tall guys who are dominant as heck, and at the same time one tends to see short guys who are less dominant.

Anyway,

@Da: Yeah I heard a lot of short guys get jacked to make up for the height thing. When I get some time this summer I'll probably try to go to the gym/work out daily or at least a few times a week.

@In$tinct: both of the guys you mentioned are extremities but I can see your point. No I don't think it's all in my head. Girls would probably like me better if I was taller, but I guess I can try to make up for the height thing with extra confidence. Not sure how to do that without seeming like a huge jerk. Honestly, being super confident with women isn't apart of my personality. Maybe I can fake confidence every once in awhile but not 100% of the time.

@Starttoaster: Yeah I usually do go for shorter girls. Tbh If I was tall enough I'd prefer a taller girl but it just feels weird when a girl is taller than me.

@Donston: Yeah great advice man. I'll try to incorporate the voice thing more. Don't totally get the whole qualifying thing. But maybe because I can't remember a situation where a girl has qualified herself to me, but nonetheless, thanks for the advice.

@Andrew786: So how do I improve my confidence then? I know I can focus on the positives in my life, but that's kind of a generic way of thinking about it, you know. If you get the time can you please respond with ways to improve confidence that worked for you, or someone you knew in the past.


Finally, no one really touched on the other point of my original post, about how tall jocky guys treat short guys with disrespect (at least that happens to me sometimes.) How do you get these big tall guys to stop being disrespectful, after all life isn't all about women. Btw before anyone mentions that I shouldn't care what those disrespectful tall jerk guys say/do I'd just like to point out that that is apart of my personality- I care what just about everyone thinks about me. But hey if you can tell me a way for me to stop caring that would be great too.

You gotta star seeing all the stuff that works for you instead of thinking about you height.

1. Make a list of your virtues, positive qualities and skills
2. make a list of short rock stars and actors that are having success with women
3. train your social skills every day

A way for you to stop caring what other people think: well, first of all you gotta start seeing all your virtues and loving yourself deeply. What other people think or say it´s there responsability and just reflects the way they think.

Okay let me rephrase it.

Why do you think girls go on all the time about their boyfriends being jerks?

It is because they are jerks most of the time. But most girls don't have a better choice. They can go with the nice guy without balls, or with the jerk with balls, and they choose balls, because of evolution.

Now if you learn how to demonstrate balls without being a jerk you will be a rare species of man. Adding to that: discretion, good communication skills, empathy, and mad bedroom skills(all of these can be LEARNED, except for empathy, but that's the cherry on top anyway...), and you will be among 0.1% of the male population, and no women will give a damn about you being short because they are well aware of the fact that they might not meet anyone like you again in their whole life.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zI76q8BYP0sda

This guy is short as shit, but look at how he acts, and look at how the girls respond. And he has dozens of videos showing him doing this.