Hi PUA

I recently lost my girlfriend, but that not the entire reason why i create this post. I have a problem letting my feelings and emotions take control of me and i need that to change.

I've been in three relationships 5 years, 8 months and 1 months. What they had in common was, that i let my feelings take control of me and i overanalyze every single situation.

Whenever i feel that something is wrong in the relationship i tend to feel bad. If she writes a bit more cold than naturally, or if she doesn't reply me, or if she acts just a bit different when we are out, i'm sure hell is loose and that the relationship might be over soon. If we have a small fight and i feel that she oves me an apology, i wait by my phone, and for every hour there goes, i fell worse and worse, and in the end i'm the one contacting her and trying to make things right again (sometimes apologizing even though, i shouldn't) I simply do that, because i'm affraid the relationship will end and therefor i become a little pussy!

What the heck can i do, to change my self? I overanalyze almost everything, when it's something i care about. I feel comfortable with my self and feel like i have a lot of confidence. I'm well fit, strong and semi-good looking. But i still lack something?

Whenever i feel down and am affraid that a relationship might end, i'm feeling so bad and letting my emotions and feelings control me. I can't do anything and i can't just block it out. I don't feel like eating anything, i feel nausea, and where other people can block out things and just do their work, school or anything else, i feel like shit and i can't focus on the good things.

On which points should i improve my self? - What can i do to improve my self on those things? - I social, i don't really have problems pulling girls, i do a lot of sports, i care about my body and i love having fun. But as soon as i get to emotionally involved, i seem to forget all those things, and i rather want to hide under my blankets.

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A huge pussy, but that's about to change!

I think you have only one thing you need to work on really:
your self esteem.

see if the relationship is about to end you feel like your identity is hurt, when the truth is you need to be a firm wooden pol nailed into the sea floor, and let the waves of emotions of the world around you pass by, without shaking you.

you need to become more firm as a person, more centered and more solid. I actually wrote an article about that if you want a more detailed brake down step by step on how to become just that:
its called how to gain confidence and self belief:
http://selfdevelopmentpua.blogspot.com. ... elief.html

hope this helps bro!

Jason

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Hi Jason!

Thx for your answer.. I think you are right. Whenever i feel down because of my emotions, i feel needy and lonely. I feel like my whole world is about to fall down, even though it's just a small thing and when i look at it rationally, it makes no sense, that i act this way.

I'll go for a run, and read your guide afterwards! Thanks a lot!

-Henrik

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A huge pussy, but that's about to change!