Hey everyone I am dating this girl it's been 8 months (since last april) and now things are out of control for me... It's a girl I used to know since high scool and college (we were friends). I always had a crush on her even tho we were in different relationships at this time. After 4 years without speaking with her I decided to take it to the next level 8 months ago. We dated and the sexual energy was real high and I was taking her here and there, restaurants, bars, I could spoke about pretty much everything with her. The girl of my dream I finally HAD. It's like the relationship was really fast and I enjoyed every moment with her (and she enjoyed too). But as time goes by perhaps I was too needy and didn't put enough challenge...but last november she told me she can't evolve in a relationship with me. I felt broken but I stood up on my game. The day after we met and spoke (I had the big smile about the whole situation) and she begged for me to go at her place. Big MISTAKE because I went and things were out of control again days after because of my love for her...I became needy always texting and proposing stuff like I used to do. Had a few jealous moments and overreactions that might have killed the attraction.

In January this year we decided to go in vacation together but I think since last november she may have considered myself like a friend only but the CHALLENGE she was giving me drove me so much I thought I could change her mind or something I felt like I had to prove myself everytime I was with her. I had to work a LOT to get some sex and she would complain about stupid things like: ''I told you I didn't want to make sex first night in vacation, but you know how to turn me on blabla'' she was mad. No LOGIC!

3 weeks ago I was tired of her ''ignorant'' behaviour and texted her to meet and I said it was over (weird I know we weren't even in a relationship). She cried and after the weekend passed another MISTAKE. I called her.

Well now I recently discovered (february) that when we were still seeing eachother (A lot less than before)...she subscribed on a dating website and my friend told me. Instead of ignoring that I told her (again with a big smile and no pressure). Then she told me ''ahh it's nothing It's an old account'' whatever bullshit and she hugged me like a manipulative girl.

I know that she don't want to lose me from her life but I want more than that or yet she wouldn't have answer to my texts and calls a LONG time ago. It's like i'm her OPTION while she is waiting for the PERFECT MAN. It's been 2 weeks we didn't talk and she is ''supposed'' to call me this week. I know she will answer if I call but I KNOW I shouldn't call.

Maybe it's just her who is fucked up...she is 25 y-o and had 12 dates...only 2 relationships. Her first relationship she got played and LOVED the guy (high school). Her second relationship was a REALLY NICE GUY (she spent 4 years with him) and she played him 3 times.

My question is what should I do to raise her interest level now (if it's possible). Should I get more scarce and unavailable and ignore her? I'm trying to make her jealous and proving that I'm enjoying my time alone via facebook (we're still friends).

Dump the bitch, be a man, Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option! Fuck her 1st then dump her the next day.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Yeah man I must admit that I acted like a real WUSSY. I guess I liked so much the IDEA of us together rather than the real facts that she is acting like a manipulative bitch.

I know that I have to remove all feelings for her now. But then again should I act it all cool if she calls or DESTROY her for all that shit. In truth I want to prove her my f***** value and maintain her as an option if she wants some sex again sometime.

Just freeze her out Bro, revenge burns all bridges, letting her wonder only increases your value in her eyes.

Move on, go out with other girls. Don't try to prove higher value, BE higher value!

50/50 SHE my case YOU again.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Best thing to do is to raise the stakes on your lifestyle. Go do something challenging, take a trip, throw a party, join an organization or start a new hobby. Let her know you are caught up in that. She can join you or be left in the dust. That's attractive. If she isn't into that, then you are just moving on anyway.

Bam, go do you.

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What you sow is what you reap

Thanks for the help guys. I know she is the kind of girl who wants that ''bad boy'' and she needs challenge. I don't think I'm the typical nice guy cuz I used to make fun of her a lot but still maybe something was missing.

I read something about RF (response facilitation) saying that you can turn a girl who likes you to love by doing special things like going to the gym together, riding a bike, etc. because it can bring the extra arousal that she needs.

What do you think?

Too much over-thinking here!

Don't worry about HER!

The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are.
Why be afraid of what a woman will say? Those who attracted to you will react positively! And those who don’t aren't worth listening to anyway.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I guess you are right. You know that feeling when you think that everything is your fault and you could've changed something?

Not every relationship is made to last anyway and she was being manipulative in the end, she saw me as a wussy.

I guess I focused too much energy on her without thinking about myself.

I will BE that higher value from now on thanks for your help guys.