So I met this girl, was quite alpha with her, friendly, escalated well, teased enough (maybe even a bit too much) and led all of our interactions. As a bit of background info I'll let you know that she gets a lot of attention and I know there are many guys chasing her. As a result I try not to chase too much. Keep texts to a minimum and call at spontaneous times for short periods.

She is very shy in public. With regards to the escalation I haven't kissed her yet.. I've frequently hold her hand when we're out and about and I got her to invite me to hers where she gave me a massage.

I really pissed her off (irrelevant story)... waited four days, apologised. I didn't apologise in a very AFC way mind you, my body language was good. Upon advice I found on this forum I even got her to qualify her reaction. But she did ask me some personal questions which I had to answer honestly. The answers for these questions aren't necessarily beta, but they certainly aren't alpha. They gave away parts of my personality which in hindsight, I'm not too comfortable with her knowing.... I feel like I've shown her my cards and any mystery to my character has been diminished. That being said, they will have certainly served their purpose and will have painted a much richer picture of my life for her. She's got a similarly stressful history so hopefully she'll find some commonalities.

Anyway, while talking to her I still teased her a bit, made the conversation interesting, and got her to laugh... tried as much as possible to not change how I behave in front of her. When she left she said "let me give you a hug" (like a friendly, consoling hug, based on the shit in the previous paragraph).

It was her birthday recently so I sent a cheeky message... no questions, just "Happy Birthday {insert nickname}! "... got a "Thank you {insert nickname}"... but it didn't bait her into asking how I was - last week I'm sure she would have done, or she would have sent me a picture of something.

I guess I know that I just need to act cool and not change state, which I'm really afraid I did when answering those pesky questions! I just had to though, as they were the reason why I pissed her off with some insensitive comments I made. I'm really worried that I now come off as a broken man, even though In all our other interactions I've been this super-alpha dude. Just really wondering what you guys think my next move should be?

I realise that I'm being really unspecific in what I'm asking for... but have any experienced PUAs experienced something similar to simply plough through and get the girl?