I originally took the boot camp to win over one girl. She has been in my life for over a year but has treated me badly. She'd pick me up and put me down as she pleased. After the course things changed.

My inner game got better and I became confident. I didnt need her anymore so I thought and this made her want me. I begun to get her attention. However, I became cocky, arrogant and she told me to fuck off when she found another girl's no on my phone which I got on the boot camp. I really couldnt handle having the social capabilities I learned on the course. I cope better now. Since that day, she hasnt spoken to me and I do miss her like crazy. The PUA's on the course told me not to contact her. She'll eventually come back. 3 months on and nothing.

I saw her appear online in SPAM yesterday. I was going to say hi.. and decided not to. What if she just tells me to sod off. I have then lost any sense of value and any chance of getting her back.

Any advice? i know this goes against the grain of what a PUA is but I really do love this girl and despite chatting up and dating other girls.... my heart always goes back to her.

Wait... You're telling me that you got a girl's number in your phone, and this other girl you "love" got pissed over it even though you're not even officially together?

Let me tell you something. My girlfriend doesn't get mad because of stupid phone numbers, not that she checks it, but she knows I've got female friends, and their numbers in my phone.

So what do you think would happen when you're together with this girl? I think you will have some surveillance going on dude.

This stupid bitch just isn't worth it. You deserve a lot better than this ego-queen.

"How dare you have another woman's phone number besides mine?" What the actual fuck??

Move on dude... For your own good.

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Okay look. I'm not the greatest with girls and all this PUA shit but here's something I do know that you really need stuck in your head: SHE DOESN'T MATTER!!!

Here's what happened to me today: Hung out with a girl I fell in love with. She said lets just be friends. I was bummed the fuck out. However I'm friends with her and I'm talking to other girls and trying to meet someone else. I fucking love this girl dearly and want to be with her. I wish she was with me. I wish I could have her, not someone else. I really do. She's everything I want in a girl.

However there are other people out there and she's not working out. She doesn't want me like I want her, so I move along and look somewhere else.


A few things that have happened.
Here's a really bad one. 12th grade I meet Ashley White. She has all the same interests and hobbies I do [skateboarding, video games, drawing, playing music, yadda yadda blah blah blah, etc..]. Cute girl and all that. But me, I'm she as shit and don't ask her out. By the time I was 20 I have her number [and we'd been hanging out all the time nearly every day]. I'm practically in love with this girl.

I turn 21 and we're talking and about to start dating, this girl I love so much. One day, my friend [who HATES her] texts her using MY phone. He cusses her out, calls her a whore, and all sorts of other vulgar nonsense. She thinks it's me. I get my phone from my room and get a text from her cussing me out and telling me she hates me. This girl that I love.

I tell her I didn't send those texts and she says she doesn't want to talk anymore. We stop talking. I'm still in love. I was devastated and depressed. My body felt weak. Nothing in life had any meaning anymore. And all of my hobbies reminded me of the times me and her would go out skateboarding, play streetfighter, learn songs on the piano, or whatever together. She was gone, I lost her.

I pulled myself out of this depression and accepted that my friend ain't my fucking friend and I lost this girl and there's a few things I could do [the same shit you can do].

-I could dwell on her and keep focusing on winning her back and drive myself towards insanity. I could keep trying and trying and thinking about her and trying to figure out how to get her back. This would've driven me insane and wouldn't be healthy.

-I could kill myself and miss out on all the wonderful things I've enjoyed from life since that moment [that was when I was 21 I'm 29 now]. Take the easy way out.

-I could grow the fuck up and realize there's 7 billion people on this planet. I could talk to other girls and forget about her. I could keep pressing on and not worry about getting her back when I can't fucking do that.


this girl you love doesn't matter. You'll meet someone else. You'll fall in love again. Maybe it wont fucking work out. It wont matter cause you'll meet someone else and maybe fall in love again. Maybe with time things will persistently not work out with you and women. That's when you can try to learn and try new things.


I know you're hurting and you're upset right now.
I'm fucking frustrated, upset, and depressed. I'm not good with women. I struck out on a girl I'm in love with today. Shit sucks. I get it. You're upset over this girl, but you have to stop focusing on her and move the fuck on.

Work on your skill. Learn how to be social. FIND SOMEONE ELSE.
You don't even have to do it right away. If you're still upset take a breather. Regain your composure, just don't give up looking for SOMEONE ELSE.

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In my experience, girls I know who get pissed about shit like that are horribly insecure. Insecurities sometimes manifest in horribly selfish cruel ways, like that girl being a fucking bitch and flipping out when you need to tell her to slow her roll.

She ain't worth it

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Thanks Chime. I appreciate the response. I kinda needed to hear that. I bump in to her every so often as we live close to each other which makes it hard.

You are very right though. She is insecure and she puts up a bitch shield to hide it. I do know she has a caring and loving side, but I dont think she really wants me. If she did, she wouldn't wait 3 months to contact me.

I am going sarging next week to start tuning my skills and am seriously looking at a residential with Gambler. However, I know I will feel better in time about the situation, but at the moment it's kinda tough. We use to have so much fun together and connect so well. I truly felt I had found my soul mate. I find it so hard to lose that.

Thanks for the advice. If you ever in London, drop me a pm and I'll buy you a beer.

London as in the UK?

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Yes. London UK

Unfortunately I live in a land where people like to murder each other, profit off of other's health, are lazy, and generally greedy assholes. Which is over the sea

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no worries. If you are ever in London. Drop me a pm.

Also a shout out and thanks to In$tinct too. I again appreciated the reply.