Hi,

I need your help, I'm currently seeing a woman(oneitis), and she has a boyfriend that is abroad for few months, and will be gone for 2 more. With this woman, when we are alone, we kiss, we cuddle, have sex and everything looks like we are in a relationship, but when we are out with our friends(we have many mutual), we like to pretend like there is nothing between us(it is kind of fun, and its because she has a boyfriend). They broke up couple of times on fb, but I would count that as a reliable source of relationship status, and I don't want to ask her directly - don't want to look needy.

My problem is, how to know if she ist just using me as a temporary solution instead her boyfriend, or she really likes me, and how do I make her loose her boyfriend. I am just afrait, that I might be too available, and thus no challange for her. Please help me how to make her mine, only mine

cheers

why is this an issue for you? you are free, you can see her and other girls at the same time

why would you want to LTR up a girl who is cheating on her boyfriend with you? she will likely just do the same thing to you if you pull it off

Yes, this is quite true, but I really like her, and I don't want to loose her, because she is hot, and is very intelligent, and for me this is very rare. And everytime i'm with her, I feel great.

And I understand, that if she cheated on her boyfriend, there is a chance, that she will do the same to me, but I kinda believe that she wouldn't :] maybe it isn't good idea to trust her, but I do.

why would you feel like you were at risk of losing her? she bangs you now and has a boyfriend, what would change if she banged you later and had a boyfriend?

you are free, she is giving you no strings attached sex, and you want to put strings on it, this is a win/win for you both, you be quiet about what is going on, and you get easy sex, she gets easy sex, you both win

how many girls have you met/hung out with that you are attracted to since meeting this girl?

obviously the choice is your own in the end, but this sort of thing tends to end badly (you either cock block yourself by getting needy, or end up with a girlfriend who cheats on you)

You are right, and maybe this is even better, i haven't thought about this, this way, and as I think about it, I may be pretty lucky that it is the way it is.

None, I have oneitis with this one, because she has everything I look for in a woman, and I think we have a bond(or somthing like this), but then again, this may only be in my head.
I'll leave it the way it is, and won't ask her questions about her her bf, and how it is between them. I'll focus my mind on me being with her, and not on her not being with her bf.