Alright so last night i went out for dinner with This HB8 after work.
As we were in the Restaurant and i tried to connect with this so i could of move further into confort .. This chick began talking about her exes's and getting really emotional... then bla bla bla.. to a point where she told me she got raped by her first boyfried.. and how the next two just had sex with her and left her after that..
since then she hates guys and has been afraid of having contact with any guy.
i could see that those events led her to a a lack of self steem.

i couldn't had continued gaming her since i'm not really into her [she has some cute friends she said she was willing to hook me with]. so stopped the kino and began just treating her like a friend.

so my question is what do you guys do on this type of situations? do you guys continue gaming the girl and screwing her? or do you guys just abort and move on? what could i have done?

i mean i do follow the "leave her better than you found her" quote. and i think it aborting seduction one her was the best thing.

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Space.volt

cut boyfriend/ex-boyfriend threads unless there is a purpose why the thread has been created in the first place that suits a goal of yours, keep shit positive instead of negative, let her keep that shit to herself, it's not therapy hour, it's a date

anyways, at least you know she trusts you enough to drop some deep shit on you
she says blah blah blah my ex's blah blah, and you interupt her and say, cool, old boyfriends, what about that avril lavigne song about her boyfriend or what ever, you know, hey hey you you, blah blah boyfriend.. wasn't that a terrible song that made you want to smash your own ears or did you love it?

when a girl trys to get all negative or starts talking about shit that doesn't matter, lead... change the damn subject, call her out, inturupt, cut the thread, keep it positive, if she is being depressed, quickly say something stupid to snap her out of it, then go back to being serious and leading with where you were going with things

act more, react less

also, in hindsight you can work on your frame control, just frame her actions and way that are condusive to your ends,
for example:

she must be a really strong person to get through that, she deserves a shot at love still, she shouldn't count herself out and blah blah blah, just frame it like it's ok she said some weird shit and passively re-qualify yourself as if it's her issue and not yours (dis-qualify her issue), she can trust you (her issue is trusting guys), she has been through a lot but the passed is behind her it's time for her to become strong she has it in her and blah blah blah, just tell the girl everything she needs to hear at the right times, pay attention to her and keep the qualification going (don't just quote me or what ever, pay attention to her in real time and listen to what she is saying and watch what she is doing), learn to lead conversations better, don't try to convince her either, just offer your viewpoint on how she is acting, she will challenge/contradict you if she is not within your frame, just keep the focus on her and pay attention

if some girl is talking about ex boyfriends it's not a big deal to keep that thread going if you are secure, but really why would you want to?, what purpose does that serve for you?, her to connect you and your time together to the idea of a failed relationship?

you want her walking away thinking, WHAT AN AWESOME TIME, that guy totally understands me and he is cute, and he makes me horny, and he's not creepy, and I want to marry him, and he has nice shoes, and all the rest of the silly things girls think about (what ever they are)

pumpington:
Thanks for the advice.. i really turn the date into a theraphy session..
it was suicidal.
From the first moment i started texting her i input a sexual frame.
teasing her about hertrying to get with me, and how she only looked at me as a sexual toy and things like that.. but once we got to day2 she just talked non stop
i did interrupted her multiple times but she is one of those girls that never shut up.. so even though i didnt ask her anything she started making threads out of the blue about her life in hawaii, her slutty friends, she hating sex,

but now that you made me think about the frame i held, i think i actually fucked up by letting her run all her shit on me.. should of had aborted at that moment and called a night..

because all threads i started she interrupted me and began talking about how it related to her friends and bla bla bla... either that or just noticing something on someone else and talking about it...

it was obnoxious letting her doing that.

btw thanks !

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Space.volt

She has emotional issues and you do not need that shit in your life at all.

Good idea though would be to JBF and then see how many of her friends you can fuck.

She will tell them all what a nice guy you are and that she trusts you as you do not hit on her.

I have a few good friends that are female and I have never fucked any of them or even flirted with them.

It's all good when I date their friends though:)