I know I have posted race threads before but those were more so census questions, this is more so of a real question to seek out help from you guys because this has been killing me.

I have never, ever, ever, in my life seen an Indian guy date any other woman than an Indian woman yet I have seen Indian women date interracial. I am not saying Indian men can't get dates, but I really want to overcome this racial insecurity, will you help me?

Now this racial insecurity started like a year ago, like a few months after I graduated high school. Just wasting some time in the summer vacation browsing stuff and then the beautiful world of the internet said all this crap about how Indian men can't get laid, Indian men can't get a date, or anything.

I searched that because a lot of teachers of mines in high school would say they have never seen Indian men date interracial when I did talk to girls and danced with them at parties.

So far it is has started to project. I would talk to a girl who is White but fail to pursue her or go farther off the fear of her not being interested in me for being Indian, because I have just never seen an Indian guy date a White girl before. Then on the internet and even a bit in real life I have heard jokes of such relationships like how it will never ever happen and stuff.

Majority of my insecurity comes from Indian guys on message boards posting about how they have no success with women (I myself have not tried that hard so hard for me to know) and this just automatically makes it all seem discouraging to me.

I see all these Latino, White, Black, and even Asian men having success with women but never ever Indian.

And no I will not date an Indian woman, I am not going to get into it, I want to date White, Black, Latin, Asian, and mixed women, I am not dating Indian women period and I know you guys will say this is the root of it but it is not, I want to date interracial and lets not even argue this.

you guys, will you help me overcome this brutal insecurity? It is not as bad as it used to be but what will help me overcome this? As I said, I live in the deep south but from what I hear, I am starting to believe NYC, Europe, and Canada might be just as bad

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

You have to realize that alot of this comes down to how much you believe in yourself. Maybe the odds are against you, but that should not stop you from trying. Think about the story of Jackie Robinson. Racist people did not want him to play in their league, but they had no choice but to accept him because he was so good at the game of baseball. If your inner game is tight, then your outer game will get better, and you will have success.

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"Simple. Escalate, if she's into you, she will escalate with you, if not, you will know soon enough." - SexAddict911

dude..go youtube "simple pickup". there's an indian dude on there that pick up a lot of hotties.

This is all in your head...

Follow the advice about appearance from the other thread and youll be on your way.

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

What's the difference between getting rejected for being Indian vs. getting rejected for being ugly or an idiot? Your fears are based on rejection, not racial differences. All you did was pick out the most obvious thing that cannot be altered and raised it up as a defensive mechanism.

You won't date Indians and you're scared of every other race; this pretty much sets you up as a virgin for life. The truth is you're scared of hitting on ANY girl. You don't have to offer us any bs excuses about Indian girls as I'm sure you've formed up some creative ideas. The ONLY reason why you won't date Indian girls is because you can't use your race card on them; you've got no excuses . . .

Welcome to PU:

1. Rejections are a part of life. Figuring out 'why' is a good habit as it allows you adjust and improve the next time around. Creating a blanket excuse is simply idiotic and won't do anything for you.

2. Smothering yourself with a blanket excuse will weaken your ability to focus on reality.

3. Some rejections can't be explained nor can you improve upon it. She could be having diarrhea. She could be suffering from a yeast infection. Her herpes sore could be flaring up . . . who knows? You adjust and improve what you can and keep going.

*Judging by your assumptions, you obviously don't get out much. Take it easy with your mirror photo games and rejection fantasy games. Go out once in a while and get some fresh air.

kasabi has said it all man. And if your really insecure about all this check out Chief's thread on the simple steps of pick up and you can always do things like dress well and work out so you can feel better about yourself. That in turn will help you feel more comfortable around others

Wrong section maybe? This thread is fairly entertaining. Paramount21, if you don't mind me asking, why do you "see" your self as so incapable? What makes you believe that you, or your race is looked upon so unfavorably? What do "you" see so wrong in Indian men that they cannot acheive the success "you" desire? Answer this question please.


ETA: Judging from the fact you made another thread named "How do I improve my looks" it would seem as though you have a problem with your self-image. You seemed to have fused your inadequate feeling of yourself with your race. You are doing a grave disservice to all Indian men to be honest. Feel free to still answer the questions I asked you above. It could give me further insight into what exactly your self-image dilemma is. However, from this new revelation, there is one last question I want you to answer.

Why do you feel so inadequate? So inept? So unable? What makes you feel less of a man? This is clearly what is going on.

truth is, I have not heard any women talk more sh*t about Indian men than Indian women born and raised in the states.

As for where this insecurity arises, loads of articles, loads of horror stories, and having never ever seen an indian male date a beautiful woman from another race

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

I have seen this place change lives apparently, now I want to see if it can once and for all help me overcome this insecurity. It is getting better and better but I want it completely gone. Has anyone else ever suffered from such before?

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

This is something you are going to have to overcome by yourself.
But you must learn to accept that:
1) You will be rejected by females for whatever reason. Do not let this get you down.
2) Stereotypes are not always true

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Sinceriously,
Serj

Dude, in DC, I see plenty of Indian guys date attractive white women. I see East Asian guys date white women. I see Latino, blacks, etc.. date white women.

It happens if you try.

Trust me, I was in your boat. I made the same assumptions (I'm East Asian). But, through no effort of my own, I have met plenty of white women who have been attracted to me. The only reason they didn't work out was because I fucked up and punked out. After letting this happen one too many times, I am no longer making excuses for myself and I'm going out there, dealing with rejection every day to find the women who are worthwhile enough and cool enough to be in my life.

Listen, race does matter. You will face more rejection because you are Indian. It is just how it is. But, there are cool, progressive women out there for you who are opened minded about dating outside their race. You just have to find them.

Further proves you have haven't been out much. This is THEIR race card. Black chicks often talk smack about black guys. Korean chicks talk smack about Korean guys. Why not? They're a bunch of hysterical and whiny chicks; this is in their job description at birth. What's your excuse? You're a guy right? Do you or do you not have balls between your crotch?
Hey, if I'm looking for it, I bet I could find you loads of articles and loads of horror stories about aliens who want to abduct your sorry little ass.

No more cheer leading from me. I'd say you deserve your virgin status. Not sure why this is . . . but I get a kick out of seeing AFC's fighting for their AFC-hood. Go virgin Indian man! Lol . . .

Doesn't this say enough?

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You WANT to make a change.
You CAN make a change.
You WILL make a change.

Ambitious to be succesfull => Shyler

Doesn't this say enough?

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Thanks,
Stan

"don't listen to this creeper reputation bullshit, girls like to get hit on / get attention, don't be afraid to do so, girls forgive advances, but they NEVER FORGIVE PUSSIES" - from pumpington

Again? really?