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OK now we're getting somewhere. First off, I haven't insulted you AT ALL, or used shaming language. But we can agree to disagree on that for the time being.
You have said exactly what my 35 year old friend said to me the other day when I asked him what he wanted. A nice girl to settle down with.
Down points for him: He however isn't the best looking guy, is overweight, half-asian (in a latin country) and not rolling in money (to address your concerns).
Up points: sociable as hell, good background, smart, family company on the up.
His only sex is though prostitutes as well. He has had one GF, and that ended about 12 years ago. I do not consider that a fulfilling sentimental life.
I wanted to help him so I started taking him out in the field, sending him reading material, and trying to help him begin to understand women (he has a lot of women friends who just leech him because he's just too nice and dumb.
But guess what happened?
Instead of reading what I sent (I also went to his house for one-on-one classes), and working his inner game, getting nice clothes (I offered to help out in the looks department).... He just kept watching TV, going out with the same stupid girl-friends who do NOTHING for him, and basically has not wanted to WORK AT ALL at becoming a better person for some woman to fall for. He has NO IDEA what to do in order to get women, but will also refuse to game or practice with me yesterday when out at a club.
I used the analogy of the overweight guy who wondered why he didn't lose weight while he continued to be a couch potato and eat pringles. You have to WORK for things you want in your life. This DOES NOT include closing yourself off and ignoring sound advice.
In any case my friend, you sound a lot like him. I am 38 divorced with a kid, and can still get 21 year olds contrary to all logic living in a very conservative country. Thanks to confidence and listening to advice and practicing like hell. I also crash and burn, but you can't make an omelet without breaking some eggs.
If you continue the prostitute way, good for you. I know a few pros as friends (never used their services) and some are nice and fun girls. But it's work for them, therefore I could consider sex with prostitutes like jacking off, because you have not established a human connection that stuck enough for you to have a sexual relationship without money. They might help you take your mind off your problem... though that is not what you should be seeking IMHO.
Too many similarities with my friend man.... There are people with your mindset all around the world.. You are setting your own limits. You are not going to get what you want putting down ANYTHING (including PU). As I said, you weren't always 45 or bald. You've been doing the same wrong thing for decades, but don't wanna figure out what it is.
More insults, if you had bothered to read my other posts, you would know that I have tried all different types of methods and nothing worked, so I resent your assertion that I have been doing exacttly same thing because I haven't.
The only reason you are good with women is because of your looks, don't claim that it was PUA or any other of that pop-psychology.
And of course prostitues only do for it the money and it's only work for them, Captian Fucking Obvious, don't you think I know that? I don't go to hookers to find my wife, I am not stupid.
I went bald at 23, and I thought you PUAs said it's not about looks???
Just because you "tried" methods does not mean you employed them properly. You can try at something a million times but if you do it wrong each time you will still fail. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
CHAT
