| Hey, guys! Sorry, it was longer than I was expecting...
I have been reading a lot about Inner Game, Openers, Relationships, PeaCocking, Cocky&Funny, Working Out, Grooming, being very Social and other similar concepts that are necessary to be attractive to women.
Albeit I have read a LOT of really interesting information (not only about these topics, but also learning about Female Nature, Hypergamy, you name it), one question seemed to be bothering me more and more, and that question is: is all of this REALLY worth it? The way I see it, women in dating don't really have to try as hard as men - while we have to better ourselves, always improve constantly without an end point, be confident, assertive and, ideally, have a decent career and significant amount of wealth (and let's face it - all of this is really hard work, especially when you are told that you HAVE to do it constantly), women, on the other hand, seem to have to work much less - they have to "look pretty" (which can be easily achieved by make up), smile and show up. That's basically it.
I mean, sure, some things that are being rightfully so encoureged here indeed do increase the overall quality of one's life (I my subjective opinion, Inner "Game" (or, as I would call it, "Self-Worth") and Working Out being the most important), but a lot of things also seem to be much more bothersome than rewarding, especially if they come unnaturally to you.
For instance, I am not a very social person, so this idea that I have to be very social in order to be successful with women makes me feel like a loser. I hate being competitive as I find that most of the greatest achievent and progress can (and have been) made not only because of competition, but also cooperation. Still, in this world and in PUA world, competition seems to be not only acknowledged, but even encouraged. Personally, I find competition not fun at all and it stresses me out immensely. I find most women (and, to be honest, most men) boring, uninteresting and unintellectual, and it is very difficult for me to hide it. Personally don't care about careers and achievement, as I see the world to be only the sum of appearences anyway and social status the way it is understood nowadays and on this forum seems to be an illusion and very often lacks some kind of substinence behind it. Fake, too.
As you can read from my nick, I label as an Omega Male. I don't try to kid myself into calling myself an Alpha or whatever. I admit that I am a fat hairy neckbeard nerd, who is more interested in the "abstract" (world, science, society, etc.) rather than the "concrete" (cars, careers, social status and whatnot). I am 25 years old, I have had sex 6 women (none of them for money; sure, it might be very tiny amount by your standards, but people who know me would be a little surprised that I am not a virgin) and I have come to the conclusion that I tend to put much more into getting a girl to be with me and fuck me, but what I get is less than what I put into getting the girl, and this is doubly true if I were to take into account relationships past the honeymoon phase (which tends to last very short for my relationships). The total cost seems to be much greater than the desired reward.
You see, what I want from women is basically only 2 things: sex and cuddling watching Netflix in the evenings, which I like very much. That's it. Well, intellectual stimulating conversation would be nice, too. I don't care about having my clothes washed or my food made. But in order for me to get the 2 (3 would be ideal, but I would be willing to compromise on intellectualism) things I want, I need to "go through" a lot of crap - starting from becoming attractive, like grooming, becoming social, losing weight (I like going to the gym, however, which is a plus), you name it; continuing to actually getting a girl (approaching, asking them out, being cocky&funny, listening to their uninteresting BS, entertaining them, always initiating, which annoys me, TBH and other stuff) and finishing by actually keeping a girl (I don't really care about having multiple women and plates - 1 woman I truly like and even love would be enough) - which means that I need to deal with their drama, pass their shit tests, to always retain my frame, never show weakness.
Its just all this effort seems to be too much just to getting a girl. So, I have decided that fuck it. I'll just be myself, not care about trivial stuff most people tend to care very greatly about, and just do what makes me satisfied, like hanging out with buddies playing poker and eating pizza/drinking bear, play video games, be satisfied with a job that doesn't stress me out, but whose pay is not that good, and replace women with a "RealDoll", which provides me with much happiness and I no longer have the urge to actually chase pussy in the first place as I no longer am "thirsty".
(After Post Addition: interestingly, after I got my "RealDoll", I would no longer be satisfied with average woman, especially considering that women age. I mean, sure, it would be great if a gorgeous woman would agree with have sex with me and cuddle watching Netflix without any demands, but it, of course, is unrealistic, and, considering the quality of women I realistically am able to attract, "RealDoll" satisfies me decently. But I digress...)
Anyway, so whatabout you? You seem to be very experienced with women, and I want to ask: are women (I am talking about average women with issues that tend to be common in most women - and I am not talking about some kind of "cool, sexy unicorn") REALLY worth ALL this effort that seem to be required from us? Are there more guys who are feeling like this?
The reason I ask is that I wonder whether it might be just me, who is unattractive strange INTP omega male, and for "normal, social, cool guys" a lot of the effort that are needed to get women comes naturally, hence the "cost" of getting women is considerably cheaper.
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