More recently my ex has been contacting me more and more, basically because she moved away and is starting to feel a bit lonely i guess, and mentioned that she missed having someone special in her life...whatever....

about the next day she called me up and we had a pretty hot conversation over the phone..no big deal..so worked up she couldnt sleep though..probably just lonely and horny for her.... and the next day after that she began to brake and started remember when and wasnt it funny..when this bad thing happened brought up some of the stuff in our relationship she could have done different admitting that she wasnt being that fun..as in she was wrong to take another guys number that one time..which she did but didnt bother me that much..though it prob did at the time...

Then she turned around mentioned that she broke it off at the time and she thought i wanted something serious and she didnt...or she just didnt know what she wanted...again whatever?.to which i played it cool and said.. was just going with what i was getting...and that I didnt really want anythign serious..cause thats what freaked her out so I wasnt going to say i did..even though i was prob taking it too seriously back then (and a little now..but i want it to work so)...I aint going to admit it now...she also commented that she had no idea that i was dating other people in the beginning ..and made it a point to say that it didnt bother her....and felt it was wrong of her to suggest that i stop..through her actions and things she said..like u better not be making out with other girls. Then she turned around ...(confusing cause usually when someone wants you they get offended by this)..which i would like some insight into..im guessing its passive agressive..or finding a reson to disqualify me because..

more recently she has been suggesting that she was looking to have something more serious in her life..or is just looking for closure...and by having me admit that im not ready to settle down..then she can keep me nicely in the not what im looking for pile..and if i admit that i was ready to settle down than im a liar..about having wanted to play it cool back then..when she just didnt know what she wanted..which is why she broke it off..again whatever?...So it seems now that were long distance apart (and a whole 2 months later) she mentions that shes ready for something more serious...with someone though probably not thinking with me..cause hell she's far away..

Not that I'm going to stop dating local for something on Mars..but I would like a little insight onto what might be going on inside the mind of this girl, and things I could do, besides relax and slow down on the contact to ahve it work out. We didnt date for that long just had a little preggo scare that got out of control..and then snowballed..Lately the contact has pretty much been three times a day..she writing me ..but i do respond and dont cut it short..which if i stop may help hook it)....I could see myself with this girl long term one day...but am not going to admit..but would like some solid advice on the approach from a pro on some things to look out for traps to avoid that will turn her off..adn how to get her more invested...and a little insight into whats going on here in her head..and how to flip it back totally..as she is getting lonely and obvoisly going out on other dates...which is not my ocncern