Hi

About 4 months ago I discovered I had actually fallen in love with a girl in my class (college). I didn't game her or anything in the beginning of the schoolyear, back then I didn't know PUA. The gaming has worked out for me on parties and stuff, not that I'm all over every woman I meet. The reason why is because I'm one of those guys who wants this one girl, probably putting the pussy on the pedistle and so on. But I don't care about that.

When I discovered I'd fallen in love (because of the waves of irrational thoughts and the fact that YOU CAN NOT get her out of your mind) I started to move in a little. When you're in love it becomes very difficult to think about your game and all that, you get scared, you don't want to screw this up, you can't accept the risk of losing. When I thought things were working out pretty good, and getting all euforic about it, I discovered she had just gotten a boyfriend:) (a guy from our class). That really stinged.

But I got over that and kinda made me forget about her. Then after a month or two they broke up, HE had had actually broken up with her (as I type this down I can't grasp why he would do that). This all happened about two weeks ago. We sort of had become friends, and when I found out, I felt the overwhelming urge to console her. I said some awesome things that really hit her (having had the same problem as her, actually CONCERNING HER:)).

It didn't take long before I felt those love hormones pumping through my brain and I started to look forward to conversations and all that shit. In my irrationality I had become "the too fucking nice" guy. It all FELT right, but I should've known better. Eventually I probably started showering her with attention and at some point said something wrong without knowing it. Because now she's pretty cold towards me, I just know something's wrong.

Maybe I just had to write this all down. But I really feel like SHIT, I really hate this goddamn feeling. It's making me bitter, and I really don't want to game other girls. I'm also pretty sure that the alpha stuff doesn't work on her, we actually talked about that:), she really wants "nice". That's why I probably had given in. The guy she dated, and she still likes him btw, was also pretty nice. That's the thing she liked about him, what she probably didn't realize is that the guy showers everyone with attention. She propably had to fight a little to get his attention. But I can amog his ass any time, only that I refuse to constantly shoot the bull on everyone in the classroom.

If anyone goes through the trouble of reading this emo crap:), I'd really like some personal advice. Somehow I still think that I'd be able to "win" her, but that's just a thought. What do you think I should do?

Are we talking about what she consciously tries to convince herself she wants, or about what her emotional circuitry which evolved over hundreds of thousands of years responds to? C'mon, you know better than that. Attraction is not a conscious process. I'm not saying go bad boy on her, but all women evolved to respond to certain alpha qualities, .

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Love,

Ace

Women will always try and tell people they want a nice guy, which is true to some extent, but she has to earn his kindness to appreciate it.

Getting this girl is not totally out of the question. Get a girlfriend, or date several other girls. Once you know that she is aware that your seeing other women try to befriend her again (probably in the same way that you were when she had a boyfriend) and let jealousy do the rest. This time GAME HER, don't let your guard down until she has totally bought in.

Good luck. You know the rules, play by them or remain an AFC.

You make a good point

However, nothing is absolute, the mind can be more powerful than basic impulses. You could say that 'what' we think derives from these impulses. But some people can get so wound up in their own little thoughts that it becomes the other way around. There really are girls who want "nice", we're dealing with the whole spectrum of human emotion here. It's definitely a big exception, a psychological flaw, whatever. But she could be like that.

I realise now that saying "we actually talked about the fact she wants nice" was really irrational, or emotional, on my part. It doesn't mean shit she said that.

But the thing is, this guy she dated, I've amoged him And I was really paying attention to that. If he makes a joke, I overkill. If he has a question in class, I actually answer it for him. Not only am I smarter, I lift weights 3 times a week and would break his arm like *that*. It could be he has a prettier face or something, but I'm not gonna fucking think about that^^. My wardrobe's better too. These things have happened, and they have confirmed my status in the eyes of others. My word goes over his.

The thing I lacked was his naturality. He was really nice to her on day one. I didn't do that, I had not noticed her, and I didn't even know PUA to begin with. And what's a TOTAL bitch is the whole 'love' thing, fucking hormones messing up your brain. It's probably not an excuse, but it's been three years since I last "fell in love". I'm not ashamed about that, it's a pretty normal thing, pure biology.

Anyway, I probably had to write the stuff down, put it on this forum. Hoping someone would know how you can control that shit

I know that Jlizzle's also right. It's what I should do, but somehow I just wanted a different answer to the problem at the time I wrote it^^ Right now it's alot better, more rational thinking

I'm gonna move in on the other girls, they know who I am. Also, pray for an early and long hot summer, showing off that worked out body