Hey guys, i am new to this forum and i just wanted to write off because i feel the need for it and ask a question about being introverted.

My life experience
I have had many negative experiences in my life, my whole life i have been fat and bullied altough i had many male friends because i was always funny and stood up for myself if someone said anything. When we used to have school dances when i was younger i was always flirty with the girls but they always told me i was ugly/fat and all that no matter how hard i tried i always was the fat guy without the girls.

When i was twelve my parents divorced, it took very hard on me. I started drinking and smoking at an early age and got even fatter then i was and felt like shit. I lived with my mom from time to time and I did not go to school very much, drank a lot and played video games to forget all the responsibilities and mess around me. My mom was an alcoholic and also tried taking suicide a few times which took very hard on me.

I was bullied at high school aswell from some guys that told me i was fat and a pussy. But one day my big brother told me we are going to hit the gym, this was when i was 16 years old. I also started balding when i was 17, which destroyed my self esteem even more. From the years 16-19 i was very insecure with ladies and i could not even talk with them altough with the help of the gym i slimmed down and i met my first girlfriend at 19 years old and also lost my virginity then.

I managed keeping in a pretty decent shape from 19-24 years old but with my last girlfriend (for five years) i got extremely overweight (130 kg/286 pounds). We broke up and i dieted down again. Currently at 85 kg (187 pounds) with good strength and muscle but my belly is sagging and it annoys me to hell.

I met the most beaityful girl i have ever met online a few months ago and we had such great sex and intimacy and she told me i was sexy/good looking and it made my confidence sky rocket because i have never heard that from no girl before. And that coming from a very attractive girl made me fall in love to fast which scared her away.

After she dissapeared in my life i experienced such crueling pain, all my old ghost came back to haunt me and i tried marijuana and amphetamine for the first time in my life. It took about 3 months of sleepless nights, doing drugs, drinking, eating lots of junk food before i finally took myself together and starting to look at the future again.

Now i am studying economics at the university to become and accountant. And i am 25 years old.

How many girls i have laid with
I have currently gotten laid with 9 girls total and i have all met them online or at the pub. Also worth noticing is i have met all the girl weighing at around 80-90 kg. Altough when i met this girls i was very insecure, i am much more secure in myself in this moment of writing so meeting girls should really be easier now. But the problem is that i am not very outgoing nowadays.

My looks
6 feet tall, 85 kg, shaved head with trimmed beard and i have spent 2000 dollars on clothes now to look really good and i can see that it's working because many girls are looking at me now since i bought new clothes. I would say that i look like a badboy and many girls i have meet like badoys, but i am not really a badboy either.

The introverted personality
I don't know if my introverted personality come from my bad experiences with girls/people or if it comes from heritage as my mother is extremely introverted.

Altough i am a very social guy if i need to be (but it drains me very much being social) and i am less shy then many of the people at school but the problem with me is that i don't like small talk to much and i don't like going to the pubs anymore altough my classmates party 2-3 days a week. But during the first day at school i said hello to all the pretty girls in my class just to become more comfortable around them.

I rather sit home, reading a good book, watching a tv-series, studying or working. And the strange thing is that i LOVE it. I love being alone.

But i also try to have an interesting life, i go to the gym 4 times a week and will start doing mixed martial arts soon and also floorball. Because i enjoy sports. No talking, just action.

My question
If there is some guys that have the same personality.. How do you meet girls? Wheres the best places to go?

And if i meet a girl during the daytime can i just say something like this. "Hello *smile*, i saw you here and i must say i really liked your looks. *Present myself*. Could i'll invite you out for a coffee someday? *Exchange numbers*.

The reason for this short opener/talk is that i don't like small talk and i want it to go as fast and smooth as possible.

I must say that i DONT want to date girls on the internet anymore because it takes so much times for me, and many girls are extremly shallow online. And i don't like the pubs from many bad experiences there aswell. So meeting girls during daytime is the only option for me now.

This was very long but i would be happy for a reply.

There is no special pill or magic line that you can use man... If you want to meet girls, you have to go out and talk to them. You have to have conversations. You have to be seductive. (Your eye contact, tonality, body language, physical touch, etc.)

There is alot more to it than "where do I go and what do I say?"
Fix that. Be more outgoing. Don't be some lazy piece of shit.
If you want to do this and you really want to get good at it, you have to LOVE going out. Which, you're young. You should enjoy going out and meeting new friends. Think about when you are older... Do you want to be the guy who has no friends and no girls at 50 years old or the guy who has tons of friends and tons of girls? I'm not saying one is necessarily better than the other... But see both sides of it. If you are so concerned about your "future" that is something to consider. It's not all about your career. Relationships are important too.

Also, where you meet girls is depending on what you want to do... Day game is not a place where you are going to pull girls right away. You aren't going to be able to pull a girl from Target back to your place. Is it possible? Sure... But highly unlikely. Day game... you have to create a quick emotional connection, get her number, and set up logistics from there. Night game its connection and figuring out logistics to a pull. What type of girls do you meet at bars where you are saying you have "bad experiences?" Does it bother you that girls have sex when they first meet a guy? lol that is THE BEST way to get girls invested in you...

I could comment some more but I'll let you take all of this in first.

-Majik

Thanks for your reply TheMajikalMethod. I am going to write down my answers here.
You are definitly right with this one. Altough everyone do not like the same things. If you want to get good at lifting weights you have to lift weights aswell. What shall you do then if you don't like to lift weights? Pickup another sport.

As i don't like going out at the clubs, because it's to noisy, i feel lost when there are so many people and many times in the past girls at clubs have been unpolite to me which comes back. There is also stiff competition, hundred of horny guys checking out the girls so you are just "one in of the guys".

I also get very mentally drained from a night out and get tired the whole next day. So what can i do if i don't like going to pubs? I can do daygame. It's a more calm and natural enviroment and girls are more polite and friendly.
Yes they truly are. I have a few really good friends that i get along really well with. I like ideas, business plans, deep and emotional talk and all people do not find that amusing. So more quality then quantity on my friends.

Several people i have met just talk about last weekends party etc.. Fuck that. For me that's boring.

I also do not need to be that guy that has fucked 100 girls because i do not find anything special about having done that. I rather have a great and giving relationship with a very attractive woman that can carry on my genes.
Not really i do get bothered by it. This actually happened with the last chick i met. Of course it was great sex. But i was the one which got more invested in the long run then her lol...

It would be awesome to have sex with a girl that was sober and not blinded by all the booze so to speak. It feel more natural that way.
Many of the girls i have started talking to are very boring because they don't give anything back. Why should i be the one pulling the threads and doing the talking all the time?.

Sometimes i have started a conversation and they just look at you like you are stupid and don't respond. This has happened me only two-three times though.

I think they have this "bitch shield" at the bars because there are so many guys hitting on them, and i don't want to be apart of that game to be honest.

I can find it pretty pathetic when you talk to people at a pub, then you meet them at school and they are not as talkative as when they are drunk. So whos really the most social? The introvert or the outgoing.

Thanks for your reply again, but daygame is my way to go. I know who i am and what i don't like and do like.

Perhaps seeing the whole thing as game while doing daygame would be easier? Write up in a word document with all the chicks i have approached, their numbers and evaluate what went good/bad etc.

How would you do it? And do you do daygame?