Sorry but I didnt know exactly where I should post this, but let me give you a (quick) back story.

A girl that I have some mutual friends with on Facebook kept liking whatever comments I would write on my friends status updates. So after the 5th time, I decide to add her just for shits and mess around with her to have some fun. We talked a bit but that was all it ever was.

Fast forward 3 months later, and I see her at uni. (I had never seen her prior to this). I reintroduced myself and she remembered me and we started talking a bit. Tried to follow the Emotional Progression model on her but I think I could have done better (in other words I connected with her more than attract her, but I certainly did both) 10 minutes later and I get her number

Then we texted that night and she was giving me some sort of resistance, but in a slightly playful way.

(Bunch of pointless BS before)...

Me: Of all the (name) I know youre def. the cutest :p

Her: Hahaha should i take this as a compliment? :p

Me: Hahaha. Got anything for tomorrow?

Her: Hmm I got free time at 12:30-2

Me: Im meeting up with some friends, cool people only! So youre obviously not invited :p But Ill make an exception THIS TIME ONLY :p

Her: Hmm no thx i dnt need you to do anything for me (at this point I was like wtf??)

Me: Hahah aww how sweet :p Srsly though come hang out with us

Her: Yeaa you wlndt believe how sweet I am :p but i dnt wanna come

(Some playful teasing and shit from me. She rejected once more in this period)

Me: Anw gd talking to you but i gtg. Ill be in the cafeteria tomorrow

Her: Hmm okay ill come after all. See you tomorrow! (Now here Im super fkn confused. She was rejecting the whole time and now all of a sudden she wants to come?)


So she ended up coming on time (was expecting a flake tbh) and we hung out with some friends for an hour (they DHVd me, God bless) and I took her to a more private area and we sat down me and her. Plenty of teasing coming her way, but I kept the frame I had established. Plenty of eye contact from her. However, she was kind of acting 'not interested' (but from her body language I could tell she was a little bit) We said goodbye and kissed on the cheek.

So heres the real question: What the flying fuck is going on? Here is a breakdown of her behavior:

Signs I think shes attracted:

- Shes giving me *subtle* IOIs (strong eye contact, asking personal questions, laughs at lame jokes)
- She agreed to go with me the next day (I said 'hang out with friends' so I dont know if this counts)
- She teases me heaps (comments on my overall attitude)

Signs I think shes playing hard to get:

- She tells me she doesnt know me enough yet
- She gives me hints that she wants to talk about something and when I go with it, she backs out
- She gives me monosyllable answers (Yea, Sure, Ok) (When I point this out to her, she laughs)
- She kept stating she didnt want to hang out in the cafeteria and right when I was leaving the convo she agrees :/

Signs I think shes crazy:

- Said she wanted to unfriend me on Facebook because I told her to stop changing her profile pic
- She hints about 'some guy' thats making her feel depressed (I didnt even bother replying to her when she said that bcz I knew she would say she doesnt know me enough yet)
- She tells me she has 'no idea why shes not nice to me' (Hinting about how she gives me one word answers, makes open comments about irrelevant shit, and other stuff I cant remember)



So heres the million dollar question: Is this girl playing hard to get, or is she just having fun? Shes a definite 9 for me (some self esteem issues Im guessing is making her perceive herself less, she commented on how she looks better in photos and not as nice in real life)

Ive only known her for 2 days. not counting FB, but Im usually pretty good at reading people by that time. But due to her mixed signals, I really dont know. Your insight would be very much appreciated.

Thanks for reading!

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1. Why are you even trying to figure out if she likes you or not? Alphas press on regardless.

2. To answer your question, yes, she seems to be into you. She may not have wanted to join you and your friends in the caf perhaps because it would have made her feel awkward/uncomfortable being around a large group of strangers. Her strong eye contact, asking personal questions, and wanting to hang out with you are your best indicators. Whatever else she literally says is noise and shouldn't be given much thought, if any. Her saying she'd unfriend you from FB is a mere shit test. Laugh at her threat and move on. Some guy making her depressed is probably a guy she likes and isn't getting what she wants from him. This means she'd be an easy target for you. She does seem to have self-esteem issues but which teen girl doesn't?

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Thanks Fly_Swatter for the reassurance. I just didnt want to invest in her if she was playing games with me (honestly not in the mood these days for any bullshit )

And huge props to you about your comment on her not wanting to be with my friends. I totally forgot to mention that she said, 'dnt wanna go, especially if I dont know them', in our text messages. How the hell did you know that? Hahaha

So we have established shes playing hard to get. So now what? Should I give her a taste of her own medicine, or keep holding my cocky/funny frame? (She even told me that I joke too much, but I keep doing it)

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Ok guys heres a quick update. Started talking to her today via texting:

Me: How did you go today (she had some sort of concert to perform in)

Her: Hahaha it wasnt for today it was postponed. Btw listen sorry for the way I was acting the other day

Me: Nahh it suited you Makes you look sexy

Her: Ahh so should I stay like this? :p

So now she apologised, how do I take it from here? She has confused me with her moody behavior, and Im not in it for the game playing. So what now?

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She isn't playing games... She's just being a teenage girl. Teenage girls aren't wise enough to play games, or at least not play them well.

If she's apologized, then it's because she was afraid she pissed you off or turned you off and wanted to make sure she hadn't ruined anything.

Your flirting is good. Just continue doing what you're doing and get out of the mindset that she's nuts or playing games. When her behaviour confuses you, just press on unaffected and don't take minor details personally.

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Lmaoo I get the feeling Im coming off as a beta with all these replies back here, so I hope Im not giving off the wrong impression

Well, Ill just keep soldiering on, and keeping the flirtatious attitude that Ive set already. Thanks for the feedback!

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Sorry once again guys, but I would appreciate a reply ASAP

We have been keeping contact for a while now (texting every day for 4 days but I plan on giving it a break). Anyways, I can really sense her 'playing hard to get' attitude from the texts she sends me back, but theres some definite clues that she is really interested, such as:

- Hahaha yeaa I liked your friends more than I liked you
- Aww I thought I was the cutest girl you know??
- (Amongst others as well as some mixed signals)

Anyways, I asked if she wants to hang out this week, and she hits me with 'I cant because I dont have any free time, and I cant like last week because Im meeting up with a friend but I put it off last time to hang out with you' (This part I know for certain is 100% true, she isnt lying to me)

So what should I do? Stop texting? Freeze her out? Move on and take my game somewhere else?

Sorry but Im just getting so confused by this girl in particular. She is really busting my balls and I dont know what my next step is now. I really think I should stop texting her so I dont come off as needy, that part Ive established for myself.

Any advice? Thanks guys

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Shes playing the game just like you are. Play it back, just better than her. You are coming off as needy it seems from these conversation. You are always the one who asks her to hang out, and it seems like you are the one to always start texting conversation. She is definitely into you though. Right now you are both just seeing who has more power, you or her, and it seems as its going back and forth (i think thats a good thing, it keeps both you and her interested) If she cant hang out let her till she comes back. Shes testing to see how needy you are, or genuinely is busy.

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FAIL PROOF PICK UP LINE: excuse my, im sorry to bother you but my father beats me, can i have your number.

Appreciate the fast reply Octave.

Yea, she genuinely is busy, she doesnt have free time to hang out due to her classes and mine not always falling into the same time frame. And shes got some friend to see, whom she blew off last week to hang out with me.

So I think its safe to say Ill just lay off the pedal with these text messages a bit. Ill use them more sparingly and talk to her a bit less, yeah?

But what should I do now? (besides game other girls, thats always on the agenda )

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Sorry guys I dont want to seem rude or impatient, but I would appreciate a reply as to what move I should take next with this girl as soon as possible.

More insight would be helpful

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