| A random thought that came into my head today. I just got the urge to write it, I don't know why. I used to be into PUA until about a year ago. It was fun, but life has changed a bit over time.
My view on relationships is that there are many people that are right for each person. I don't believe that there are all that many different personality types, and some people you will naturally fall for just after spending some time with them and getting to know them.
Secondly we rate our potential spouses based on their situation, status, background, and potential rational suitability as a long-term partner. Ie do they want kids? Do they come from another country and perhaps want to go back at some point (could be a problem). Etc.
I have many women in my life, and a few of them I even have feelings for (like 2 of them). However, I'm not ready to settle down. I keep them as friends and I enjoy spending time with them. I'm sure they enjoy it too, and I don't get jealous when they have boyfriends or other dates because I know I am not having to select only one person and stay with them.
This is the way I want things to remain until I'm ready to settle and thing about things like kids etc.
If they get with other guys, then that's too bad. But you NEVER know how life pans out. Imagine this. As a middle aged man, your wife dies. An old spark's husband leaves her. You rekindle your love.
This is why I think it's ok to have mutiple close female friendships.
The problem with PUA is it requires an awful lot of practising, scheming and generally burning up energy. It also leaves you in slightly akward situations with girls you have history with. It all becomes about sex. And once you've banged more girls than you can count on all fingers and toes, your priorities change.
I think PUA scene is where guys (who didn't have skills before) come devour mouthfuls of lust-quenching conquests. However, whether it's for glory or for personal satisfaction, I do think it's good to get this type of thing out of your system at one point in your life.
Does this ring on anybody else's level? Interested to know feedback if you have any.
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