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1# The first approach to an attractive guy should be politeness and indifference. Smile while making eye contact for a few seconds then turn your attention elsewhere. Humans respond to smiles intensely and immediately and when directing one towards a man of your choice he'll get a powerful non-verbal message that you're nice and approachable. Consider this your "First Move". Even if you've never spoken before he'll be compelled to notice and eventually say hello to you if you keep that eye contact and smile.
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This is especially important If he's the kind of guy who's used to having girls approach him. It's imperative that you be different because you'll stand out more. Do nothing at first but lock eyes, smile, and turn your attention elsewhere or keep walking. Be disciplined and wise enough to know that if you give in to your physical attraction and pursue him before he's had to invest any amount of time( not just the time between the beginning and end of the party) getting to know you, then you lose.
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He won't know that you're great unless you've aroused his desire to know. It's ineffective to blab on about every detail about yourself because you'll leave him with nothing to be curious about!
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As a female you have a significantly larger language center in your brain than a male and are thus innately masterful at nuanced language. A male's use of language is very simple, to the point, and straight forward which is why they become so frustrated that women read into their statements to search for underlying meaning, but it's what women do naturally.
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Instead of using your natural language skills to frustrate a guy, use them to create a mystique about yourself by being selective about what information you give him so that he has to ask questions and wonder about you; be a puzzle that he'll want to spend time figuring out. This doesn't mean you have to pretend to be more deep or interesting than you are, but it does mean that you have to have hobbies, goals, and opinions you can talk about in an interesting way.
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One way you can intriguingly reveal tidbits about yourself is while telling some kind of anecdotal story. Let's say you do theatre or play music. Instead of revealing that outright when you've just met a guy, say something like : "On the way to a rehearsal yesterday I saw this guy who blah blah etc etc" If the guy is listening he should be prompted to ask "what kind of rehearsal?".
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The point is to withhold info about yourself until he has to ask for it and starts to get drawn in by curiosity.
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Another highly important way to approach guys you're interested in dating is with subtle and playful rejection. It might seem counter productive to reject the person you're attracted to but if you've ever been pursued relentlessly by a guy you have no interest in then you are well acquainted with the power of rejection.
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Guys seek status to satisfy their ego and as a female a male's perception of your status is vital to how much he values you because in a way it reflects his own status. Effective use of rejection elevates your status in a guys eyes because It's a psychological fact that when rejected or denied something the source of the rejection appears "better" and thus more desirable.
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The art in doing this is to making casual and playfully critical statements without being too harsh and hurtful. The key is to MAKE HIM LAUGH with your terse and pity put downs so that he'll see you as not only fun but someone he has to WORK TO IMPRESS, making you a fun challenge.
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If he makes a bad joke don't giggle like a passive little girl, find a way to turn it on him or tell him flat out "that was a bad joke". If he says something you don't care for say flat out "I don't care" , but make sure it's in a way that will sting just a little and not too much. Also never be afraid of being brutally honest about your likes and dislikes. It adds to his vision of you as a fully developed and interesting person with high standards.
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It's very true that absence makes the heart grow fonder; and when you tell the guy you're interested in that you can't hang during a particular time because you have to spend it with just your friends then you not only keep your friendships strong, but you subtly let him know that your time is precious and spark an urge in him to figure out how and when he can get close to you again. Give him the necessary space he needs to dream about you because you are indeed a dream girl. Play a little hard to get why dontcha
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