im a boring man i only had a few experiences that you could say were exciting or interesting when im meeting new people or go to visit some friends (they arent close friends you could say they are the friends of my friends) i dont have much to say so i tell several jokes and after that if they are up in something and i share my opinion i often get answered by "what"? then i got to say it again another times i share my opinion i get no answers at all then i got to repeat it so they can hear me or i keep my mouth shut

also when im starting a story about "the few exciting things in my life" i often get imterrupted and never asked again to finish my story

why is that people doesnt listen to me? is it bad to tell many jokes? how can i improve myself? how can i give every little detail in my stories if people doesnt ask me to?

this is a really simple answer and solution. SPEAK MORE LOUD. WHEN YOU FIRST START YOU'RE STORY SPEAK LOUD AND WITH ENTHUSIASM. its not hard. its dominance.

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even when i speak loud still dont get much atention you got any other tip?

Unlike a lot of men you've admitted that you have a problem - the first stage of resolvement, well done. Let this be the first step of your resolvment.
Hi-five my friend. You have the exact same problem I started with. Before I give you my advice and then link you to some articles that will help you become more valuative you need to know the schematics behind value (this is only incase you don't know, if you do then skip this part). Lets say you walk into a bar and you compare two guys there. One being the guy sitting in the VIP lounge talking to 3 very beautiful woman and the other being the one who is leaned back against the wall, looking around and looking unimportant. The guy with the most value is obviously the one with the most girls. Why? Because he looks more interesting if you were just to walk in a club.

High value men don't feel the need to give out value to other women by trying hard to make them laugh. They're already getting laid all the time so it would only make sense if they didn't try hard.

(If you skipped the last part, start here)
What I propose you do to start your transition is firstly, try to put your past experiences behind you and practice building comfort with women. In other words, building that sense of comfort and security with one another, like friends. This isn't exactly picking up women, I understand that but at least it gives you the chance to practice your social skills in a group or one on one. If women see you as sociable then you'll hold more value to yourself.

Links
Here's an article that you can read that will aid you in keeping the attention of women.
http://uk.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top- ... ou_10.html

Also, I wouldn't in a million years recommend you to start with the mystery method. Although that it is said by thousands to be the best pick-up starter it is a betray of your own personality and congruence to pick up women. So I shall recommend Adam Lyons' book "Principles of Attraction" as an insight and aid to pick up women. http://www.4shared.com/document/Cm61LJO ... am_Lyo.htm

Good luck.
AFCCoffee

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"At the end of the day these are women's lives we're dealing with, not mere entertainment."

"We are what we repeatedly do. excellence therefore is a habit and not an act."

AFCCoffee thank you so much man i will read "Principles of Attraction" when i get so freetime

I'm no expert on PUA, but from a general-people perspective, you're barking up the wrong tree.

No matter how interesting you are, trying to dominate conversation with stories about yourself is a losing battle.

I'm intersting. Well educated. Seen war. Been all over the world. Many achievements to my name, etc etc etc... But I still know that the best way to be interesting is to be interested in others.


Repeat that last sentence 1000 times until it makes sense.

I agree with the previous poster. Take an interest in them and tell them stuff they could be interested in. I mean, you should be able to read what others like and adapt accordingly. Not being a sellout of course but just enough to spark interest. If everybody else are talking about sex, join in. If you start talking about banking youre gonna be boring.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

^This guy sounds like he's more of an expert on PUA than he gives himself credit for.^

theres a difference in asking for attention and commanding attention! think about a teacher if when he said to a class 'erm can you be quiet please?' what response would he get from his class they'll ignore him and carry on regardless

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life sucks and then you die! deal with it