I have questions.

There seems to be a lot of conflicting information floating around about PUA.
But I can't think of a specific example right now.

I don't know, nevermind.

See, the thing is... I'm never good with come backs to things that raise my social value. I just can't think of them at the time --- only after the situation is already gone.

Like the other day, I was wearing a band t-shirt and a black cardigan over it. My one friend (who is a girl) said, "There's your feminine sweater again" or "There's your girly sweater" or something like that.

Well she was wearing like, gym shorts or something (like guy gym shorts)

So all I could think to say was, "Well there's your non-girly look." Not exactly what I said, but that was sort of our conversation.

Well, that didn't work. I could just feel it didn't work, it didn't show that I was assertive, dominant, and lead women.

But afterwards, I thought of the perfect way to counter it.

Just show that her frame is that everyone needs to please her for her to be comfortable.

Like saying sarcastically in a dramatic way, "Well please, oh great one, tell me what it is that I may do to please your aesthetic."

And I think that would have worked great. And if I ever get that kind of comment again I think I'll use it.

Unless there's something better?

But the question is, how can I train my brain to come up with comebacks.

Is there some sort of mental exercise I can do?

I have a great little trick that you may like. Whenever a girl challenges me on something, I deflect it with amusing agreement. I guess it does require a certain degree of spontenaeity but its a frame of mind where I see nothing as an insult.

I'm not saying its perfect by the way, its just better than sticking your thumb up your arse and standing there blank.

Let me give you an example.

HB: Hey you've got some ketchup on your face, you're such a messy eater.

Me: I know I put it there. I'm saving it for later.


HB: You're not very good at dancing.

Me: I'm not dancing, I'm having a fit. Why havent you called an ambulance?

HB: There's your girly sweater again.

Me: You should see the bra and panties I'm wearing underneath.

Haha, that's really good. I'll try something like that next time.

Should I smile after I say it?

Wow, for once that's not terrible advice. I was gonna say something along those lines and yes, smile after saying that.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

So it's okay to jokingly DLV yourself?

you see, a little sense of humour goes a long way.... try it sometime.

either that or you can whip out your glow in the dark juggling balls. That'll save you.