so i was walking from one of my classes and this HB9 i am friends with, and havent seen in a while passed. we stopped and greeted each other or whatever, and for some reason i felt an urge to take off my avaitors while talking to her. idk if this was my subconscious telling me to do this or what, but it definitely telepaths interest. the HB left her sunglasses on, but i still spoke to her and made EC as though she did not have any sunglasses, maintaining firm EC through the shades she was wearing. i think it showed some vulnerbility on my part, but it still displays confidence maintaining EC.. during small talk in a situation like this, is it good to show interest in this way? or should i have left my avaitors on? i am confused as to what i actually signaled to this HB and how her response could have been different. any explanations on this pheomonon would be much appreciated. or any ideas about it. it is very interesting to me, and i think it fits under the "body language" category.. what you guys think about it? -Rye

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"You're so money and you don't even know it!"

well how did the convo go?
how long did ya'll talk?
how did it end?...plans for the weekend?

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"it's you against you, it's the paradox that drives us all"
-Survivor

whats actually funny is she came to a concert with a buddy of mine, and i brought this HB10 i TOTALLY fucked up with.. but she was ECing me all night because of preselection, even though i got no where with the HB10.. anyway, now i am trying to work game.. here is the convo..

Me: heyy what's going on? haven't seen you in a while where have you been hiding?

HB:heyy yeah i know, Redstone campus is pretty far away from everything.

Me: oh you are on Redstone? cool. (i realize this is going to be a longer convo, so this is where i take off my av's) there's alot of good bands coming through, i'm checking out this band blah blah

HB: oh yeah? have you heard of this band? (she folds her arms, shows a little awkwardness that is noticible, but follows up with some question)

Me: (as istart walking away, tried to use time constraint bc this was when i was walking back from classes, made it seem like i needed to go) well i'm going to AOD tonight, hit me up if you want to go.

(she does not have my number, i know this. i wanted to see if she would ask for it but she did not.. i don't have hers either.. we just know each other through my bud who tried to get her but failed.)

HB: yeah alright. blah blah bye

so to answer ur ?'s tech, no definite plans, just tentitive shit. i have a problem of acting needy and not realizing it so i tend to keep my distance..


she is kind of a tom boy, little awkward too and it makes me very anxious to see what she is like in bed bc i'm sure u will see a side she does not show and i like that. shes probably a freak in bed or something haha. anyway, this is my 2nd or 3rd time talking to her, first time talking to her one on one.. should have taken advantage of this opportunity..
-Rye

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"You're so money and you don't even know it!"

well you carried it well IMO, but you need to lead the conversation more toward possible plans with one another, or atleast throw out some options and get her # so you can talk about it later. you are going to need to get in touch with her to do something for this weekend. get in touch with her tonight if you can. get her number from your friend or facebook/myspace message her. you could have number closed but i guess you didn't incorporate that into your time constraint schedule

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"it's you against you, it's the paradox that drives us all"
-Survivor

At the end when you said you were going to wherever, you should of said hey you should go, its gonna be a good ass time, how can I get a hold of you to let you know what the plans are??? This way you're not specifically asking for her number and offers her the oppurtunity to volunteer it... but overall sounded like it went well.

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any Man can sweep any Woman off her feet, you just have to have the right broom...

Well on one part your convo was ok but...when you take of your sunglasses you show DLV(demostration of lower value). When you have them on your neging her and try to look to the left and right to pretend your not so interested in her. Compliment her with "I think your hair looks tight" or I like your glasses" (how ironic).

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Learn from my mistake...If a girl is interested in you and your interested in her, get her number before you get drunk.

I wouldn't be so concerned with taking off your sunglasses. However, she didn't ask for your number so this seems like a dead end to me. These are some things you should have done.
- Keep your shades on. Stay mysterious.
- Offer your number at the end of conversation. Just go for it.
Maybe you can try to contact her through some other means (AIM, Myspace, Facebook etc...) Stay Perisistent to see how it works out. Tell her how good the concert was she missed. Make her feel bad about missing it.