First, welcome to my FUCKED UP world.

Ok, quick background. Divorced in January of this year. 100% beta male. Friend introduces me to Asian massage parlors. Probably went to these places a total of like 8 times. Basically, what happens is, you get naked and a little asian girl gives you a body massage. At the end, they give you a happy ending, which means they jerk you off.

Well, back in early June, I was a little drunk when I walked into one of these places. The girl was cute, so I tried to make out with her and she went along with it. She indicated that she wanted a boyfriend, so I took her number and asked her out. Looking back, knowing what I know now, it's amazing that she actually went out with me and didn't flake. There was no comfort. No qualification. None of the normal stuff that's required. I just asked her out on a "big" date (MLB Baseball Game), she agreed and didn't flake. Very unusual from what I've seen of the US women.

Meanwhile, striking out at bars over and over, I stumbled onto Mystery Method and over the last 90 days, I've become a totally different person. 100% alpha male. I can walk into any bar with my recently acquired skills and I can say with 85% certainty, I'll be able to make out with a chick in the bar. I've made that much progress in 90 days. I've lived, breathed and eaten pick-up non-stop for three months. I'm not the same guy I was three months ago.

Back to the girl. I love her. She loves me. We've been seeing each other for 3 months. She knows I get a lot of women and it's eating her up. What she doesn't realize is, I get fucked and dumped by a lot of good looking women and the only ones who'll take my phone calls after I lay them are sub 7's, which I'm not interested in a relationship with. Basically, she's the only girl who matters to me right now.

Here's where it gets tricky: She met me while she was doing her "job". She wants me exclusively. The problem is three-fold. First, I don't want to abandon my skill set just as I am on the verge of mastering pick-up. Second, if I do commit to her exclusively, how the fuck could she respect me, with both of us knowing what she does for a living? There's no way she could possibly respect me if I make her my one and only and I know she's practically having sex with men all day and I accept this. Third, if she gets even the tinies bit bored with me, she can accept a man's advances at any time, fall for him and dump me with no warning signs at all.

My plan has been to keep a couple girls in queue at all times. That way, if I get dumped by a woman, the heart break isn't nearly as bad. I can just focus on the other woman immediately. I went through this about a month ago when I was rejected by a US woman...being able to focus on my little China Girl made the pain a lot easier to take. Keeping the queue full REALLY helps.

So this week, she dumped me, saying she can't deal with me fucking other women. It's devastated me. I'm a wreck. I called her this morning and she took my call. As an offer of compromise, I told her I would still see other women but I'll promise not to have sex with them. In exchange, she can't see other men, but we both know she'll be able to find another man at the drop of a hat with her job. That way, I feel protected, I still get to hone my pick-up skills and I still get to see her. Without sex, there is very little chance of me actually getting REAL close with another woman. She seems ok with this arrangement, but what she really wants is me all to herself. I just think it'd be foolish to commit exclusively to a hired gun like her...seems a one-way ticket to eventual heart break.

As for no sex with other women, I won't miss it at all. Seldom is first night sex with a woman any good.

Do you guys think there's any chance in hell this arrangement will work?

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Alphagame

Look, my mother Married my father with the understanding that he wasn' done "Sowing his royal oats." He did it a few times and still has the option to this day... but she knows that he will eventually come home to her. And if THAT can work (It has) then your situation can work.

I am just suprised that a woman who deals out sexual fulfillment for a living is so hung up on sex. She should understand that sexual fulfillment isn't as important as emotional fulfillment. And SHE is giving you that. You should have addressed this long ago imho.

Hope this helps.

EvoJ

We started out just dating. But we've gotten closer with time. Exclusivity has never been an issue until now. She wants commitment, I don't.

It's my suggestion that I not have sex with other women. Not her idea. As I see it, I'll never be able to get close to a woman if we're not having sex.

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Alphagame

U seriously want a relationship with a girl that bangs other guys?

Dam dude, move to Thailand or something lol Ive had my fair share of these girls, tho money didnt exchange hands - All I can say for sure is that every bar girl / massage girl whatever u want to call em has at least 2 guys on the go, some have up to 10 guys. Bear that in mind!

Yes, I think I'm fucking around with disaster here. She doesn't bang people for money. But she does the "happy ending". Again, WELCOME to MY fucked up world!

The weird part of all this is, even though I was total AFC when I met her and I violated EVERY rule known in PU 101, she still went out with me??? What does that say about her? It smells of desperation, but it doesn't make sense. She's hot and clients offer her money for sex all the time.

She is new to the area. She was in New York for the first 5 years and then moved to my area about 10 months ago. She barely speaks english. Maybe I automatically qualified just because she doesn't speak english very well. But there was never any comfort before our first date. All I know is, if I'd have tried to get a US woman out to a MLB game on date #1 with only an hour of comfort, I'd be shot to hell. Most US women won't even take your call after an hour of comfort.

I don't know what to think of this woman. The part about her having 2 or more guys on the go at all times is scary for me. I'm in love with her and it's a FUCKED UP situation.

All I know is, I'll never game a hired gun ever again. This is a bitch.

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Alphagame