Ok. This is the deal. With my access code to DYD I received a free set of interviews with Dating Gurus. One of the interviews is with this girl. She says that girls are completely turned off by guys who call them or ask them out because this can signal that "this guy has nothing more in his life. he is single and looking. he comes across as being needy"
I mean, what the ...? So because a guy asks a woman out "hey, maybe we should go out sometime" he is saying he is needy and a loser and has nothing more going on in his life?

I am very confused by this. How ELSE are we to get a date if we don't ask? I thought showing confidence and asking a girl out was a good thing.

Now, the worst part is that I wanna see this girl who flaked on me about a month ago. I called her a week ago ans she said she was busy and that she would call but never called. Then I went to her place and she wasn't there. What am I supposed to do now? I really want to go out with her again, I think I can close it if I get the chance.


Also, I have this girl's number but I guess if I call that would scream "needy guy"?? This DD interview really confuses me.

Please comment.

Well I can't think that calling a girl would come off as needy. As for the one girl you are trying close close... I just think you are spending to much time on her and she is looking like a one-itis for you. I mean you even took the time to go over to her house and see if she was there. To me thats alittle extreme. I can't really believe that whole thing either with the whole asking them out part. When I ask a girl out after I get a number close, I usually wait 2-3 days, call them up ask if they are busy and see if they are up to anything and work it from there. I try and make my call short and to the point and will call on the date of the date with the details. But ya that whole thing "this guy has nothing more in his life. he is single and looking. he comes across as being needy" I think thats a crock of shit. Like of course if you are asking a girl out you are single. But just cause you wanna date doesn't portray you as a needy person. There has to be another meaning behind that whole interview.

Shaft thanks for the comment. Indeed, I am yet to develop a good skill at moving on and just saying next instead of insisting on girls. I guess I insist because I don't have many other options availaible right now.

As for the interview, the girl is a bit of a bitch. She says that if a guy says to a girl "hey, I am going shopping and would like you to help me find some nice stuff" then it is wrong because the word "help" clearly indicates the guy is weak and needy.

It is only an interview I guess.

Girl sounds like she has her bitch shield at full charge, definately not a gilr Id ever want to game. As for the other thing youre trying to hard and shes putting in no effort. Start gaming other girls.

What going shopping doesn't work anymore? Man my date tomorrow involves, Mini-Golf, Go-Karts, Shopping, possibly clubbing, and possibly a night afterward. When I used the "Hey I am going shopping" comment. The chick I got a date with jumped at the chance of helping me shop for clothes. She said it would be a blast going shopping to help me find a wardrobe. I just mentioned I needed a new wardrobe for clubbing and wanted her to come and see how irresistable I could be and she was up for the challenge. But I believe I will have a blast... but I also believe Streetwisekeens comment about the bitch shield. Maybe that chick just had her period when the interview took place.