Ok, I've been with this chick for awhile. Friends with benefits type of relationship. I will admit that my sex drive is a little excessive, but we've gone from casual sex, being almost daily, to next to no sex at all. The problem I have here is that she's bipolar, so it's impossible to read how she feels, making me rely on very afc type questions. This has killed me in a way. I only have this problem when I'm with her though, so I figure I'll move on.

After tonight though I was thinking about how bullshit sex is. We play a game well and then we're rewarded. When thinking about it I came up with the question, Is sex really worth all the effort I've put into this girl. I feel that women should be throwing themselves at us after we work this hard. I don't really know what to think right now, I'm pretty pissed.

If any of you have some suggestions they would be appreciated.

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i dont want to sound like a hypocrite or anything, even though i concur of what ur implying, but what do you feel as if you had someone on the side, besides the chick your with, do you feel as if your in a relationship with her? maybe she doesnt want to be friends with benifits with you anymore maybe she wants some kind of relationship with you

Sounds a little like you've lost the 'friends' bit of the relationship and are too hung up on the 'sex' aspect. She may have seen it as overkill if it was almost daily so now she doesn't want it as much, but I don't know. If you think that you're having to result to afc type questions, she might be seeing you as clingy and needy. You might have to let her know that you enjoy her friendship, give the sex a rest for a bit, as in, don't be going for it at all. Then after time escalate it back in, teasing and such.

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I definitely feel like sex, literally the sex itself, isn't worth it.

But we're coded genetically to seek sex. So the feeling you get naturally of completing nature's purpose for you is excellent. The social feeling of banging a hottie is also excellent. Lastly, it relieves the bad feeling nature gives you when you're not sexually active.