I am confused a little bit.
All the girls who fell in love with me(it's about 4 per year) do so without any gaming from my side.I don't show paticaularl interest(I want theese girls as friends,not lovers),we chat a lot,I naturallyt use humor a lot,know interesting topics to talk abut,am very free:say what ever the hell I want.
On the other hand, then I see the girl I like and turn the logical attraction mode-where you think what to say to DHV,neg,story telling,games,it gets us better to know each other,but it never leads to frienships.
It's almost as if a girl can only fell in love with you naturally,for your fundamentals.
And it's the fundamentals you have to master:voice,social intelect...so on,not the mechanical tactics.Then everything will come naturally.

That's happened to me too, and I think it's because our humor and confidence naturally comes out when we're speaking to women we're not interested in. Also, we're not chasing at all, so it provides a challenge to those women. I think the key is keeping that frame for all women, and not getting nervous/needy around the hot ones.

But why do we need the tactics,the theory then?

I have an idea.
I'll tell my story.There was a girl.We started chating by e-mail.The letters got longer and longer.I think she got attracted because of my romantic letters.But were was still a long way ahead thorward the action.So I needed to fuel my progress.I applied the tactics:jealousy plotlines,I gave her an impression that I already have a girlfriend so I barely have the time to meet et cetera.It boosted the attraction as hell.After a little bit confort building at the start of the first date,we kissed at the end of it.And it was she,who iniciated it-the signs were everywhere.

My theory is,be yourself with hot girls.And only if you feel a spark,use tactics to boost attraction an other stages.I might be wrong?
And there is a prblem to this.How about getting every girl with no exeption if you like her?

"Tactics" are for newcomers who don't know how to be themselves around women. The whole idea of getting comfortable with women includes the notion that you will no longer be conscious of your theories and tactics. In turn, just leaving you, being yourself.

I haven't thought about what I was doing while talking to a woman in a long time, whatever I'm saying at any particular moment just comes out. The only tactics I realize, or am aware of for that matter, aren't consciously noticed and analyzed until I'm writing up a field report here or trying to figure out why I just got shot down.

In my opinion, which I feel is strong enough to assert as fact, one will not truly "be good with women" if he is constantly thinking about which tactic to use next or which phase of some guru's method he is on. Its a distraction to say the least, not to mention its an odd form of social behavior to live your entire life breaking down social interactions into robotic steps for your brain to easily follow.

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