I've been dating this girl for a couple of months now. She is very out spoken, and talks openly about sex, and the possiblities of having sex with me. She openly told me that when she is with me she feels a strong sexual presence from me. ( i have strong sexual energy) she also says that she can see her self falling for me if we do have sex.

I'll give some back ground so someone can help me more.

I promote at a night club but we met on the street while i was passing out my fliers. I walked her to another club she was going to near by. We had a good coversation and i decided to go and see her again to get her number.

She ended up coming with me to the club i was working at. Then out to a late night venue at a friends private karaoke party. We end up making out in a karaoke room. We stay with each other till 11am the next day.

I find out that she is dating someone else from a few days before she met me. She says he and I are 2 different types of personalities. The other guy is edjucated, carreer secure, and the 'safe' type but he is shy. I on the other hand I am a promoter, previous night club GM. I'm more confident, she is physicaly attracted to me. Basicly she and I have more of a spark or 'chemistry'.

Within the 2 months we talk on the phone about sex. she tells me about some of her experiances, some guys she dated and what they were like, what she learned, and likes to do.

The first time she comes over she puts up some resistance. She is on her period, so i'm not trying to get laid. I start by telling her that i know her body is beautiful and i want to see more. She eventually gets nakid. She is flaby in the mid area but is acually skinny. Over all she looks good. She has soft perky B cups and she stands about 5'7" , well toned legs, and a decent asian face.

She had been bragging about her oral skills over the phone. after her clothes come off we start making out heavily. She's groping at me and starts taking off my clothes too.

LMR time, she says she can't do any more. I say "no problem, i know you are on your period anyway."
I start to mention her blow job skills. And in her cockyness (no pun intended) she figures she'll blow me.

I guess all the foreplay and time that passed really took its toll. My willy didn't want to cum. And her blow jobs skills wasn't that good. When she found a sweet spot she decided to get fancy and it just ruined it for me.
I don't really care for blowjobs if they don't please me.

I didn't cum that night.

We met up and had similar instances where she blew me again, or just started playing with me.

but in all cases she didn't want to have sex. saying again that she would be attracted to me. And she wasn't looking for a FB, or just physical sex.

The last time she was here. we both ended up nakid. I made her stradle me while i was on my back. I reached for a condom. She said we didn't need it. I said look we are both here, you are on me. I'm goin to put it on since its heating up in here.

she starts lowering her self on my willy with out putting it inside. She starts rubbing her self on me. She is getting turned on.

THEN SUDDENLY SHE GETS OFF!!!

She goes back into this thing of not wanting heartless sex. and if she has sex with me she's goin to be really attatched. Basicly to me she was looking for validation. OR EVEN A COMMITMENT. before we have sex. She also says she's not horny because she masterbaited the night before after we got off the phone.

this is where it gets interesting for me . I jokenly tell her that if she just gets on me again she'll get horny and i'd change all that. I talk her into putting me inside her. [now i laugh when i look back at it. i told her to put it in her for a while, like i was some kind of shoe] She does. She's fricken tight, she hasn't had sex in almost half a year i think. I slowly start giving her shallow strokes. and we start going slowly at it for a couple minutes.

I decide she is not good on top. I flip her into the missionary posistion. I stroke my head along her crack, turning her on more, I go to put it in. She starts pushing me off her with her thighs. I ask whats wrong. She covers her face with one had, and puts her other hand gently on my chest. She starts saying the same thing about falling for me. and yadda yadda yadda.

I've had enuff. I get off, try to take a couple steps back. we lay down. i let her rest her head on my chest. But for me the moment is gone. all i'm thinking is 4 fucken times and i can't fuck this bitch, she won't even give me a decent blow job so i can cum.


And out of all the times we've been intimate, she never once made me cum. Although I mad her cum by playing with her.

any ideas or input?

sorry for the long story, i have to vent. and my other friends are AFCs or dont' like my player mentality and womanizing ways.

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If it works for you stick with it.

I would suggest that next time you get close like that, and she tells you she doesn't want sex, you should just get up and put your clothes back on (or at least some boxers or a dressing gown). You could tell her you need to check your emails, or you need the toilet, or you're hungry and are going to get a sandwich, or just say you can't be bothered with the foreplay.

Basically freeze her out, act like gettin' no action doesn't bother you none... try to get the upper hand, what she is doing is trying to use her vagina, to come across as the prize (which it is, but she shouldn't need to know th at) you gotta make it look like you're doing her the favor. Just act like you don't need sex from her anyway...[/b]

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Experience is the teacher of all things - Julius Caesar

Hey,

Ditto with Villain, freeze out will confuse her, and you will win.

Cheers,
Warden

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-Warden-

She DOES want sex with you, and you know this because she has given you so many hints. Don't get pissed off with her for not going through with it though - Female instinct hasn't yet caught up with the idea that they are NOT risking their lives anymore by being impregnated, and that contraceptives prevent it anyway. Thus they are hit with an OVERWHELMING anxiety right before sex (similar to the anxiety a guy can experience when trying to cold approach a girl). To her, it's a fuckin RISK. Understand this. RESPECT this

You have to convey to her that you are a 'guy who will stick around afterwards to protect her' (and no this isn't an AFC concept), even though she may not even want that (it's hardwired in). Also as you're phsically progressing say "we shouldn't be doing this", it will make her feel alot more comfortable with making the move on you. If she still declines, say "I understand", turn the lights back on, check your emails, and say you've never really been able to accept the word no. Also she likes to know that you're not just tryna masturbate your cock inside some random object

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"To guys, getting laid is a chore.
To women, getting laid is a choice"

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