long story short, i worked with this girl last summer for a few months.. we hit it off pretty good but we never hung out outside of work, i talked to her on the phone a few times but that was about it cuz she had a boyfriend at the time (they broke up since then).. we both moved away for school for the past 8 months, and now we're both back in town.. we both have facebook, so i wrote her a message... these were back and forth sent within a few days..

ME: excuse me, its *Caps*

HER: LoL.. ! hey you..! how have you been?

ME: im good.. living back in *Town*.. i dunno what day youre getting back but i have a dinner/dance party on the 29th in *Town* that im going to.. ill invite you to come with me, but only if you have something nice to wear.. and you promise to be good, cuz i know how you can get


..that was 2 days ago, and she hasnt wrote back yet (and i know shes been on facebok since then).. did i do something wrong? i thought i played it pretty good.. what do you think?

also.. is there something i can do now to recover from this and still get her to hang out with me? let me know what you think[/b]

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While reading your message to her I actually thought you were going to get her to come over. I liked what you said, it must be something other than that.

You know attraction isnt a choice. Last summer when you worked with her she was either attracted to you or not, nothing you can do can change this now.

Well, I don't think you did anything too bad; then again I don't know in how much of a comfort zone you are with this chick.

2 things that come to mind are:
A) Don't use email/text to ask a girl out, a phone call is much more appropriate and shows more balls.
B) Your messages should never be longer than hers...but I guess it's okay in this case since you were inviting her somewhere.

Wait a little bit, 2 days is nothing. If she doesn't respond by 7 it's a wrap. Don't go messaging her again yet, you'll make a desperate fool of yourself.

David D suggests that if she doesnt reply to your message reply with "Oh so now your playing hard to get" if she doesnt reply again reply with "I will talk to myself here all week, i dont mind"

i have an update about this.. the girl emailed me back today.. said she was still away at school but told me she would be back in time for the dinner/dance party on the 29th.. she gave me her phone number at school, so im going to call her tomorrow

i think my problem was that i havent seen her since last summer, and then the 2nd thing i say to her is asking her to go to this dinner/dance party with me (she mustve thought i came off as desperate.. how come i couldnt find a girl i was closer to? i mean, i only worked with her for a summer and that was last year!)
my plan is to talk to her for a bit, do my thing.. then tell her that i feel like a jerk cuz i already asked someone else to go with me cuz it took her so long to respond.. but then ill reassure her of our connection by telling her why even though we havent spoken in a while, i feel drawn to her for some reason.. and tell her the 3 things i look for in a girl (good energy, good outlook on life.. etc.) and then wrap it up and tell her to give me a call when she gets back in town and we'll hang out sometime

i like input, so let me know what you boys think.. til then, keep sarging!

Caps

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