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#1 I love this movie (Boiler Room) because after doing car sales in an aggressive dealership and becoming a sales manager I had to give speeches similar to this. I think it somes up how a lot of the interaction should be with women when it involves kino and other things.

Alpha guys don't apologize for trying to escalate. As it's said in another part of the movie ABC ~ Always Be Closing. You are working to close all the time. It's a kiss, a number, or a SNL. Be aggressive and push for what you want. None of this messing around maybe I'll touch her arm, and then hold her hand, and then I'll touch the small of her back.

Some of my best closes come from telling girls what we're going to be doing. When the vibe is one I have said stuff like, "I'm going to have you making out with me in the corner over there in 5 minutes." It's agressive and it puts me leading the interaction which you should be doing.

When he talks about buying questions it reminded me of how girls will do things like triangle gaze you and hint at your to close her. When you see those moments you need to pull the trigger or you risk loosing her for good.

This clip gives me a lot of ideas. Another thing was when he was talking about the guy asked him what's the firm minimum and he says, "Absolutely nothing. If you don't like the idea don't pick up a single share." You have to be willing to loose her to get her. The idea of if you don't like me feel free to walk away. That attitude gets the girl!

Ben in this clip also talks about building a YES ladder which is another good tool you can use in field.

I'll end this post with one of the final quotes from this movie. "There is no such thing as a no sale call. A sale is made on every call! Either you sell them or they sell you on a reason he can't. A sale is made either way. The only question is who is going to close you or him. And be relentless!"

That pretty well sums up the interaction most nights with women. Either you attract her and "sell" her on reasons why she should be attracted to you and be in a relationship with you, or she sells you on a reason she can't. Remember: Telling is not selling!

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Damn, Afleck is on fire!
This is true. Ive heard from girls themselves that they like a guy who can push sometimes. Being passive all the time is fuckin boring and ive done that way too many fuckin times. "oh where do you want to go Romeo?" "I dunno, where do you wanna go?". WTF is that?
I wanna go get a coffee, find a nice bench, have a good conversation and people watch. THATS what i want to do, dont like it? fuck yourself!

Exactly, you have to lead the interaction. Women want men who know what they want, and aren't afraid to speak their mind. A lot of this stuff is about not being like the majority of other men out there. The majority of men out there have that conversation you mentioned as an example. How many times has she heard that crap.

Especially, if you start out strong and are alpha when you first meet then you go to setup a date and do that type of stuff she starts to see the inconsistencies and thinks, "Not another." Basically, thinking another guy who can't close.

We're going out there to make these women like us, not to go out there and hope something happens. We have to make it happen for us because its what we want! If you want something bad enough then go out there and get it.

Good point Rome0

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i think this is starting to make sense to me. I figured like, after seeing all my good qualities, my DHV's, my alpha body language, the girl will at some point literally throw herself on top of me from all the anticipation built up by NOT closing her, but still having the confidence, energy to continue a good interaction.

So you're saying, even though a girl is attracted to you, is thinking about fucking you, REALLY likes you and sees you as a high valued male....if
" I " don't close, she'll lose all that built up attraction/thoughts?

I thought it would always be maintained, until "I" decide to close?

Maybe my theory/gut feeling was wrong all along....but i thought it made sense to me and that a girl couldn't possibly lose her attraction for a guy just because he doesn't close when she's "hinting"....the anticipation and continued DHV would make her want him even MORE. yes/no? And why?

Look if she gives you the opportunity to close and you don't then you have lost almost everything you have built up. She either thinks that you are not socially savvy in that you don't know when to close. OR she thinks that you don't have the balls to do it. Some women will give you more than one chance but most quality women will not.

You run a risk of waiting. If you make her wait it can either built anticipation or while waiting she might find something better. It's a gamble that you can take, or you can take what you want when you have the opportunity.

Remember women want a guy to lead the interaction. Women don't typically go after a guy and kiss him. It is expected that the man will take care of this.

A woman can loose attraction for men. It happens all the time a woman likes a guy and becomes his girlfriend/wife and at some point in the relationship she cheats because she finds someone else she likes better at the moment.

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