Like, I mean bad. Really bad. I don't know why; I just never got good at it. Screw that, I never even got decent. I know that some people on here say to just do whatever and not worry, which is what I do. a few days ago I saw a video made of the dance floor area and I was just bad. I never dance for that reason alone, but that night I thought I was in the "zone" and went for it, thinking I'd just tear it up. I ended up tearing up my confidence in my dancing ability in the end. A few of my buddies and my gf can vouch for this. My gf is nicer about it, but my friends are cold and honest about everything, so I know it isn't just me thinking this. I can't say how many times I've been invited to dance by some women and had to say "I don't dance", plus if you're good it's great social proof, right?

So I need to know: what can I do to get better? practice in my room? Take hip-hop/ballroom dancing classes? Any suggestions would be helpful

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Why not join a salsa class. You could even go with your GF and it'll help you learn some rhythm.

And watch some videos on youtube and practice in your room. You could even video yourself.

But, TBH, it doesn't matter. Firstly, you've got a girl, so your not on the pull and even if you dance like a complete idiot, but have confidence, that will shine through.

Go for some classes, there you'll have somebody teach you and correct your mistakes.

Some quick fixes:
-dance to the rhythm, this is crucial! if you have absolutely no sense of rhythm.. my honest recommendation would be to stay away from the dance floor.

-keep it simple (don't try anything too fancy, just go with the beat)

-practice in front of a mirror at home, see what look good and what doesn't.

-confidence. Just have fun and believe in yourself. If you are dancing just to have fun, you can't go wrong. And when you can't go wrong, you are confident about what you do and we all know how important it is to project confidence.

Watch a guy dancing who you think is doing it well.

He is usually not doing anything fancy just moving in a specific way with rythm. If he's not some1 you know then you can just use that style or something similar. Move like that and keep it simple.

Telling people you don't wanna dance is not a bad thing though. Ever heard of cat-string? Say I'm gonna go somewhere (maybe to the bar?) and I'll see you after your little disco.

Even if you have a gf you still wanna look cool so just be confident. If your dancing don't take it too seriousely. If your confident then you'll look cool no matter how sh*t your dancing is.

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Alrighty,

Mate, I've never taken a dance class in my life. Yet, I'm established as one of the guys who will "get on the fuckin' floor and dance".

Here's the secret to getting good at dancing, the cheaters way.
-Watch Step Up. Yes, it's a piece of trash Disney movie, but a lot of the moves are easy to copy. Laugh all you want, this is what got me started.
-Get an iPod. Listen to some dance tracks and shit while you do stuff around the house. Move with the music.
-Go to youtube. Do a search on "How To Glide", and click some of the links. I'm no professional dancer, but gliding is a cool move that's easy to pick up.
-Dance at every party you go to. Every one of them. Build up a reputation as being one of those dancer guys. Chicks are attracted to confidence. Getting up on the floor, is an act of confidence. Showing you can move your body, is sexy.

Hope it helps you mate. I'm going to a party tonight, can't wait to hit the floor!

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Thanks alot for the advice guys, any more suggestions of what I should look for would be really great; I've been watching glide/pop-lock videos and I'm trying to learn how to do em. If I manage a few small things and add variations onto them I should be able to hold my own on a floor for a couple minutes.

I don't want to use my gf as an excuse not to get better at something though. I know a lot of guys who give up on practically their entire lives because they get a gf and after they break up, they really have nothing else. I mean, I don't plan on marrying the girl, but I know for a fact that this relationship won't last more than 2 years as she's graduating college and moving away. I don't want to be left in a position where I have two years to catch up on in PUA affairs because I had been neglecting it.

Plus, if we're at a club and I can show her shit like the stuff I'm seeing on youtube, I have a feeling my chance-to-be-laid factor will go up 100% that night. Not that it isn't high anyway, but with moves it would practically be a guarantee.

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If my post made me appear homosexual, I want you all to know that prior to sitting down at my computer I slammed 15 shots of whiskey, went balls-deep into my woman, and recited Clint Eastwood lines for 20 minutes.

find a girl who wants to dance hold on to her hips and lean with her. from left foot to right that sort of thing. move your hips to the rhythem once you got that down. if she pulls away dont stop with the right left thing

Im one of those people that look intentionally bad at dancing because its funny and girls enjoy it. Do the "roll the dice" move from Knocked up. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tvEF7iMB ... re=related
Just have fun, put a smile on.

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I just wanna fuck bad bitches, for all the nights I never had bitches.

i agree with everytbing above.
This is a very fixable problem.
And if you have a gf, get her to help u too

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I'm also a terrible dancer... well i actually dont know this, cause i just DONT dance. I know that once i get up on the floor my confidence evaporates - i generally try to come off as extremely confident in everything i do. However, when it comes to dancing i just get selfconscious in everything i do, every move i make; to me it feels like EVERYONE is not only watching me dance, but they have paper and pencils marking down EVERY stupid move (which to me is every move) i make. F*cked up mental spot to be in eh?
Anyway, because of this i DONT dance. I just shrug it off in a variety of ways - dont like the music, "not with YOU", not feeling well and the list goes on... but it always bites me in the ass.

I'm going to take some of the advice here to heart and hopefully get my ass on the FLOOR!

cheers

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I do what I can, but I know I can do better.

As you're working on getting better at movin' to the groove, keep in mind that 90% of dance floor game is just conveying the energy that you are having a GREAT time and that you don't give a fuck about what others think of you.

It doesn't really matter how bad you are. As long as you're doing just a few simple movements and conveying that awesome energy, you're gold.

Improve your dancing with this mentality in mind and you'll be a superstar.

Yea, you're not usher, micheal jackson or justin timberlake. It doesn't matter how you dance, noone really cares. The only people that are "hating" are people that don't have the balls to get up and dance, and seriously noone wants to be around a negative person who stands there on the wall arms crossed making cracks at people. HAVE FUN, stop over analyzing.

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I just wanna fuck bad bitches, for all the nights I never had bitches.

Be very careful here. Women equate dancing with sex, and if you are a bad dancer they will think you are equally bad in bed. This is "maskable" in the hip pop clubs by being high energy and fun but in ballroom dadfs

ffHOLY SHIT OMHGGF DID YOU SEE THAT!!!! USA 4X100 RELAY FINISH JASON LEZAK COMES FROM BEHIND TO TAKE THE GOLD BY .08 OF A SECOND WITH A NEW WR!!! PHELPS KEEPS HIS DREAM ALIVE!!!

alright so where was I. Oh yeah, ballroom dance, you gotta know how to lead, and if you're not very good your follower will pick on on this in an instant. So bottom line, if you're out to game, go to your strengths and don't try to impress that hottie with you two hours of ballroom dance lessons (unless she's had even less experience than that).

GO TEAM USA!!!

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I agree with what's been said - specially that bit about the USA coming from behind to win the gold in the 4x100, i DID see that and it was INSANE! haha...

BUT... if the problem is that once i get onto the dance floor my confidence starts to dwindle, advice that says "be confident" is, while accurate, extremely difficult to follow. I'm aware that no one is actually focusing solely on me, but dancing affects me in a way that i believe EVERYONE is.

This handicap hasnt stopped me form meeting women, but it is something I'd like to get over. The video suggestions / practicing at home / taking a class all make sense, but i think i am just going to have to DO IT and not give a fuck... but as i kinda hinted at, this isnt going to be easy.

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I do what I can, but I know I can do better.

USA!!! USA!!! USA!!!
Hip pop is very easy. Just move to the music, it's more like solo dancing and your inner game should carry right over onto the dance floor. Trust me on this, if you have inner game just don't think, get on the dance floor and have fun---everyone will see that and no one will care if you look like Usher/Justin Timberlake.

Ballroom dancing and latin dances are another story, they are partner dances and require you the leader to keep track of half a dozen things in your head while making your moves look graceful. But if you know how to do them, it's an instant and huuuuuuge DHV in girls' minds because as I said before, the follower instantly relates how you do during your dance as how you would do in a relationship and in the bedroom.

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